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How To Have Great Sex During Perimenopause

Hormonal shifts can affect your sex life, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have great sex during perimenopause and beyond. Nicci Talbot explains that it’s a great opportunity to experiment.

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Summer Heatwave Sex Tips

If you’ve been reading our blog for a while, you’ll already know that sex isn’t all about penetration.

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How To Be Sexually Confident With Scotty Unfamous And Madam Storm

Meet MSSS, the sexual happiness experts, learn some tips on sexual confidence, and find out about their exclusive online workshop.

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How To BDSM – Beginner’s Guide

Shakira Scott aka Scotty Unfamous shares her tips for exploring your wild side so you can live your best kinky heaux life

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What Counts As A ‘Male Vibrator’?

When you look at much of the marketing around sex toys that buzz, you could easily get the mistaken impression that vibrators are exclusively for women.

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Why disclosing your sexual health status matters

Here’s how to have that conversation

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What Is A Sex Educator?

Excellent sex educators are so important for reducing stigma around sexuality. We look in detail at this fascinating field.

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Reaching More Customers with Disabilities and Health Conditions

We’re putting a call out for people with disabilities and health conditions that affect their sex lives to get in touch and help us expand the ways Hot Octopuss serves them.

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When Sex Is An Extreme Sport

Here’s another great erotic and thoughtful guest post from James Mycroft – this time about a sporting injury that’s got nothing to do with running or rock climbing…

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Marriage And Transition: A Partner’s Perspective

Pride Month is here and it’s not just queer folx who are celebrating! Fresh from inside queer/trans/BIPOC land, I’ve bundled my best suggestions to fuel your fire for allyship and bring some sparkle into your June. Happy Pride!

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Who’s The World’s Fastest Wanker?

Today we’re welcoming the amazing vlogger DaveyWavey to the HotOctopuss blog. We gave him some PULSE SOLO ESSENTIALs and to really put them through their paces, he’s staged the PULSE Olympics! It’s a sprint to the finish line, as he challenges three friends to become the World’s Fastest Wanker…

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What’s In A Name? When It Comes To Sex, Sometimes Everything

Our regular guest blogger James Mycroft tells us why Juliet, undeniably a great lover, possibly wouldn’t have been such a brilliant shag.

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Erotica Challenge – Jilly Boyd

Jilly Boyd is the latest to take up our ongoing erotica challenge, which aims to celebrate the fact that there are many different ways to enjoy sex, whatever one’s limitations or challenges.

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Is Scissoring A Thing?

Jenny Guerin is one of the lovely sex writers we met at Eroticon this year, so when she offered to write this piece answering one of queer life’s eternal questions, we jumped at the chance. Jenny is a sex writer and ethical porn advocate from London. You can read more on her website.

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BDSM Advice: What’s up with roleplay?

Dear Zentai - What’s up with role play?

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How To Live With A Micropenis

What is a micropenis and how do you live with it? Gareth May interviewed Jon, who wasn’t diagnosed until age 28, and discusses the mental health impact of late diagnosis.

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Santa's Lap

Girl on the net is the queen of written and audio erotica and she is back again for our 2022 advent calendar! Who knew Christmas could be so sexy?

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Sex And Mental Health Management

Can sex help you manage a mental health condition? Cherith Fuller explains how it works for her.

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Erectile Dysfunction: Coming Without An Erection?

It’s not every day you’re perusing a medical journal and you get the inspiration for a brand new sex toy. But some things just grab your attention – like the fact that there are medical tools which can induce ejaculation without the need for an erection.

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Antidepressants and the Lost Orgasm

Andrea Hubert on masturbation and antidepressants

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Sex Blog Memes That Will Bring You Joy

We can say with 100% confidence that if you enjoy reading our sex toy blog, you’ll love reading some of the other fantastic sex blogs dotted around the internet.

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BDSM Advice: What kind of kink can I do by myself?

Dear Zentai - I’m single. What kind of kink can I do by myself?

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Sex On TV and Hands Free Masturbation

If you’ve been using your PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL for hands-free masturbation at the computer, taking advantage of the fact that you can use both of your hands to browse your chosen… ahem… material, then know that you’re not the only one.

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What is Cuffing Season?

Following on from drafting season, here is cuffing season

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Chronic Sex at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit

We’ve wanted to attend Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit for a while. So this year we were chuffed to be invited to co-sponsor a day in its Bloggers’ Lounge along with friends from Doxy and Sheets of San Francisco.

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National Orgasm Day: 7 Unusual Tips to Help You Hit That ‘O’

National Orgasm Day is on 31st July in many countries worldwide, and we’re sure people across the UK will be eager to join in the celebrations.

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Are Butt Plugs Normal?

I am a curious guy, and once I saw anal plugs being used in porn, not knowing if they were painful or pleasurable, I bought a couple to try out. When my wife discovered them, she was surprised that I would want to use something that was not “normal” or healthy for regular intimacy.

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Joan Price Q & A

Ask out senior sexpert Joan Price a question about sex when you're older

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Why the Sex Toy Industry Needs Queering Up

Queer it up – Here at Queers Next Door, we believe that just about everything needs queering up, especially when it comes to sex.

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Horny And Menopausal? What The Research Says

Author Jane Fleishman, PhD, MEd, MS breaks down sex drive science for senior women. Warning: your doctor might be wrong.

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How Do Porn Laws Affect You?

Rule 34 of the internet states that if something exists, there will be porn of it.

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Delayed Ejaculation And Performance Anxiety

I am a 60-year-old man, married to my wife for 38 years. We enjoy being with each other and I have always been the horny one. I enjoy giving my wife oral sex ending in orgasm with the help of a vibrator.

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Dating Advice, Please

At 59, I’m divorced and starting to date again, and my long-dormant libido has returned. I really want to have sex with some of the men I’m meeting, but I’m nervous about two things.

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Why We Use ‘Guybrator’ To Describe Our Dick Toys

As a team, probably one of the longest ongoing debates we’ve had is over the use of the word ‘Guybrator’. And we know that some of our customers and reviewers have thoughts on this as well.

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Vulva Owners’ Masturbation Myths, Tips & Black Friday Toy Deals

Vulva owners, let's debunk some popular masturbation myths and celebrate this Black Friday with some top tips & sex toy deals.

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Tips For Dating A Non-Binary Person On Grindr

Thinking of dating a non-binary person? Spotted someone on Grindr or other dating app but not sure how to chat to them without getting it wrong? Ben Pechey offers some tips.

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Can’t Keep An Erection Long Enough For Sex

At 70, I am experiencing a lessening of my ability to keep an erection throughout sex. I have tried ED meds and they don’t seem to help. Is there anything else?

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Kelly Perks-Bevington: Top Five Sex Tips for Disabled Women

These sex tips for disabled women aren’t exactly traditional, but it’s taken me the majority of my adult life to learn them, so I guess that’s quite important!

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Cocks Not Glocks Highlights Weird Sex Toy Laws

If you’ve been keeping up with the latest sex toy news (and why wouldn’t you?) you’ll have spotted quite a bizarre sight: students from the University of Texas in Austin have been carrying giant dildos around campus.

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I Never Wanted to Marry Him

My husband and I married very late in life in our mid-70s, six months ago. It was my third marriage, his eighth! He equates sex with love, while I want a deeper relationship. He wants sex at least twice a day — morning and evening.

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How To Use A Hands-Free Couples’ Sex Toy

Every sex toy can be a couples sex toy if you use it right. From vibrators you use to get a bit of extra stimulation during a shag, to masturbators you watch your partner using – everything counts as a couples sex toy if your partner is up for sharing.

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KURVE Kegel Party G-Spot Awareness Practice Sexercise

This sexercise is developed to help strengthen your ability to access conscious awareness of your G-Spot-and develop increased muscle tone and control over your pelvic floor muscles.

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What Is Testicular Torsion?

Adam England describes his experience with testicular torsion as a teenager, and the impact the condition had on his mental health.

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Learning How To Deepthroat

Deepthroating . . . should you be scared, excited, or calling in reinforcements? Our expert consultant assured us that with proper communication and preparation, most people can attain proficiency at this advanced fellatio technique – and even enjoy themselves! We approached sexfluencer Shakira Scott on the topic of deepthroating and this is what she had to say.

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Why London Is The Sexiest City In The World

Sydney is quite seductive, and Tokyo can be tantalising, but we think London is the sexiest city in the world.

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Are You Feeling Sexy During Lockdown?

Are you feeling sexy these days? Whether you’re sheltering in place with others or alone, your libido is probably feeling the effects of stress and isolation. Maybe you feel sexier than usual, or less sexy, or not at all sexy. These are all normal reactions, says Joan Price.

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Penis Vibrators: How To Use JETT

Penis Vibrators: some are better than others! Besides being the world’s first guybrator, JETT is known for providing relief from erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, and sheer boredom. Author M. Christian penned the definitive guide to this advanced piece of sex tech, so read on if you want to figure out once and for all how to use JETT to achieve hands-free orgasms.

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I Went to a Vibrator Salon That Wants You to Have an Orgasm on Your Lunch Break

If someone gave you the opportunity to go into a tiny, closet-size room in the middle of the workday to masturbate, would you do it? What if I told you that if you went into the little closet masturbation room, you could also have a free vibrator that normally costs $149? Would you do it then? Adam Lewis, the founder and CEO of London-based sex toy company Hot Octopuss, hopes that you would, which is why he built the world's first "orgasm pop-up shop" in the middle of downtown Manhattan.

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Sexy Christmas Gifts For The Porn Lover In Your Life

Too many Christmas gift guides focus on ‘gifts for him’ or ‘gifts for her’, which is frustrating for those of us who want to pick presents based on thoughtfulness rather than gender.

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Threesome Tips – How To Hook Up With A Couple For The First Time

Cherith Fuller loves being a unicorn – and after a lot of trial and error, here are her top threesome tips if you’re looking to hook up with a couple for the first time.

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International Fetish Day: Everything You Need To Know

Happy International Fetish Day! Amy Norton runs you through the key facts about this day of kinky protest and celebration: What does it mean? Why’s it so important? And how do you explore your fetish?

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Painful Sex At Menopause – What Can I Do?

Painful sex at menopause – Going through the perimenopause and menopause might mean your sex life takes a turn for the worse – but, says Dr Louise Newson, it really doesn’t have to.

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How To Know If You’re Non-binary

Most folks don’t just wake up one day and think, “I’m nonbinary!” But those who do... we’re jealous. It’s normal to be uncertain or have fluctuating feelings about gender that may never completely resolve. Here is some perspective and tips from somebody who’s been there before. This article is part 2 of our nonbinary series authored by Elliott Ennis.

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Joan Price’s Ultimate Senior Sex Tips

Joan Price is an advocate for ageless sexuality, runs a blog about senior sex and is one of our favourite sex educators. Here she is with her ultimate tips for staying sexy in later life.

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Senior Sex Hub - You're Never Too Old!

Senior Sex means keeping that spark for life. No matter your age, you are never too old to enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

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Erectile Dysfunction Sex Aids: Then and Now

From evil spirits to impotence ‘courts’, history has some very strange tales to tell about erectile dysfunction. Luckily these days doctors have a good understanding of the causes of ED as well as how to treat it.

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Halloween BDSM: A How-To Guide

Halloween BDSM: let’s show this pandemic who’s boss!

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Sex After Transition: Love Is A Many-Gendered Thing

Jen Dragon talks about sex and transitioning

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8 Cunnilingus Techniques Everyone Needs

The idea of going down on a woman for the first time, is enough to fill most of us with dread. There is an unspoken implication that, if you’re going to do it, you have to do it properly. You must drive her wild and her legs should absolutely be shaking like crazy, once you are done. Pressure indeed!

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Sex Requirement for Marriage

I am a 60-year-old single male. I still very much desire sex, but I believe that sex is reserved for a close, loving marriage. I want to find a partner for a sex-filled, intimate, affectionate marriage. But many women are not interested in the physical aspect – sex! – and only pretend to be interested to trap the man.

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Peyronie's Disease Might Turn Off Partner

My penis has narrowed and shortened caused by Peyronie’s disease. I used to have 7-1/2 inches, now it’s 6-1/4. That’s an issue for me, as a guy, but unless a lady was familiar with my former length, she would not be aware of the change. She would just consider me short.

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The Future of Onanism: 6 Sex Toys That Redefine Male Masturbation

We hear all about tech innovations in phones, cameras, cars, even glasses almost every day. But one category has eluded the spotlight for what seems like decades: sex toys for men.

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Last Minute Christmas Gifts For Your Lover

In a panic? Left it too late again? Fear not, here are some last-minute Christmas gifts with a ‘sexy and sensual’ theme that will definitely arrive on time.

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Tired Of One-Sided Sex

“How can I get myself interested in sex again when I just want to sleep?”

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Penis Vibrator Tips: How To Use JETT

When you launch a new sex toy, there’s always an exciting (and nerve-wracking!) period of time where you wait for the reviews and customer testimonials to start coming in. JETT – our brand new penis vibrator with Treble & Bass technology (more on that later) – launched earlier this year, and we were really excited to hear what people made of it. But even with high expectations, we’ve been blown away by the reception to this unique toy.

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The Future Of Male Sex Toys

The future of masturbation is looking pretty bright. In fact, the present is already getting exciting: with advances in sex tech hitting the headlines, and cool new technology coming down in price, the time has never been better to explore the future of male sex toys, and porn.

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Why Healthcare Professionals Should Recommend Sex Toys To Patients

Samantha Evans, founder of retailer Jo Divine, discusses the medical profession’s approach to sexual dysfunction and how this needs to change.

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Sex Toy Advent Calendar

The Christmas countdown is on! Forget about candy and socks, let’s stuff that stocking with the unexpected. The Hot Octopuss elves have been cooking up some freaky little treats for their favourite holiday deviants (that’s you!)

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Sexy Christmas Gift Guide for Him, Her & Them 2021

Here are the best Christmas sex toys and deals to add a little unexpected holiday spirit for you and your loved ones.

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No Erection, How to Get Frisky?

I am a two-time prostate cancer survivor since 2005. I am unable to get an erection even with a variety of products. Sex with my wife has for the most part been nonexistent. She has health issues as well.

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Man Suffocating from Lack of Intimacy

I’m 68, married for 40 years. This week I told my wife I was suffocating from several years of a lack of intimacy. I said that she could not expect me to forget about my sexuality — that’s a normal part of a person. Expecting no intimacy was like asking me to stop breathing.

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Fishy Smell, Emu Oil?

Coconut oil and Vitamin E stopped working for me, so I am freezing and using emu oil as a vaginal lubricant. Do you have any information about safety? Also, since last winter, I’ve had a slightly “fishy” odor.

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Zentai Q & A

Your questions about the weird and wonderful - answered

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20 of the Very Best Sex Toys for Couples

While almost any sex toy (from a high-design vibrator to a decidedly non-vibrating dildo) can become a couples sex toy, if you’re looking to try something totally new — or want some help mixing things up in the bedroom — there are plenty of clever, innovative sex toys designed specifically for couples. To save you the trouble of trying out a bunch of duds, I asked twelve experts to share their favorite couples sex toys — ones that are safe, easy to use, and, of course, lots of fun.

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How To Stimulate The P-Spot For Awesome Prostate Orgasms

Prostate massage or anal pleasure during solo and shared play can be pleasurable for anyone, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation. Find out absolutely everything you need to know to have awesome prostate orgasms.

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How To Host An Adult Halloween Play Party

Halloween sex parties are becoming increasingly popular. It is a fresh take on a typical sex party, often referred to as a play party, by having a Halloween theme which typically tends to lean on BDSM but it is completely up to you.

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The Initiate

Read aurore is the home of erotic stories based out of Brooklyn New York. They are here to tease, to educate and to inspire and we are SO lucky that they wrote this for our virtual advent calendar

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Best Penis Toys: Tips From Experts

Our customers and reviewers are amazing. Not only do they have excellent taste, but they regularly get in touch with us to give us extra tips and tricks for using PULSE, our award-winning, flagship dick toy.

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What Are The Best Sex Toys For Women? 17 Innovative Products To Try Now

For the month of September, Bustle’s Sex TBH package is talking about sex, honestly. We’re delving into how women approach the things they’re taught to be shy or embarrassed about in the bedroom — and, in doing so, we're liberating people to live their best (sex) lives. Let’s do it.

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Can Straight Guys Like Butt Stuff?

Can straight guys like butt stuff? Of course they can! Jack Stover shares one man’s journey to a whole new hole.

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Masturbation For Females – Taking Ownership of Your Pleasure

In this article, Sophia Reading delivers a royal ass-whooping to the conditioning of sexual disempowerment for women and other AFAB folks. On top of that, here are some crystal clear tips on how to dive into masturbation to strengthen your connection with your body and pleasure.

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Ask Zentai: To Squirt Or Not To Squirt?

I’d really like to help my wife squirt. How can we make this happen? Once it happens will it happen all or most of the time?

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Erotica Stories: More Ways Than One

Jerusalem Mortimer‘s sexy story about a man who discovers *many* more ways than one of satisfying a lover in one night.

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11 Things To Do While You Have A Hands-Free Orgasm

Not to brag, but PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL is capable of giving you a hands-free orgasm.

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Pocket PULSE Reviewers Say YEEESSS!

We sent out our first batch of Pocket PULSE Remote review toys just before Christmas… and we’ve been on the edge of our seats ever since, waiting for the reviews to come in.

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Tackling modern masturbation myths

It’s easy for us to laugh at historical mistakes: the old myth that excessive masturbation would damage your vision, for instance, is one that very few people would give credence to today.

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‘GuyFi’ booth brings relief to overworked NYC men

With a staggering 80 per cent of Americans saying they suffer from workplace stress, award-winning sex toy brand Hot Octopuss has launched the world’s first ‘GuyFi’ male stress relief booth in Manhattan.

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Virtual Reality Porn: How To Watch It

At Hot Octopuss we’re fans of new technology, especially if that new technology can be paired with awesome sex toys like the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL. And nothing is more perfect for this than virtual reality porn, which puts you up close and personal with adult performers, either making it feel as if you’re in the same room or – in many cases – putting you right in the middle of the action, as it were.

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Dysorgasmia – What Causes Painful Orgasms?

Sex blogger Petra Pan talks about her experiences with dysorgasmia – painful orgasms – and offers her tips for overcoming this little-known condition.

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The Stonewall Generation: Interview With Jane Fleishman

In this compelling article, Joan Price interviews Jane Fleishman Ph.D., author of “The Stonewall Generation.” This work seeks to shine light on the intersectionality of the LGBTQ movement as well as give a voice to the important issues of sex, activism, and aging.

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5 Things From Netflix’s Sex Education We Wish They’d Taught Us At School

Netflix’s funny-but-touching teen comedy show Sex Education is causing quite a stir in the UK and beyond, and the team at HO is about to go into binge-watch mode.

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Cloudy Smelly Urine

It has been six years since I had sex. I’ve started having an odor when I urinate. It’s been three weeks and the odor is still occurring. Also, my urine is a little cloudy.

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Seniors Speak about Sex - Part 1

Our Hot Octopuss Senior Sex Hub usually aims to answer your questions and help you fix your sex and relationship problems.

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Joan Price Bio

Author and speaker Joan Price calls herself an ‘advocate for ageless sexuality’. She has been called other things by the media: ‘senior sexpert’, ‘the beautiful face of senior sex’, and—her favorite —’wrinkly sex kitten’

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Can You Recycle Your Sex Toys?

You can recycle so much of your household waste these days, but can you recycle your sex toys? The good news is that you may be able to recycle your sex toys, if you live somewhere that accepts electronic waste (sometimes known as 'E-waste') to recycle.

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The Hard Facts About The “First” Male Vibrator

Don't let the suave British speaker in the video below distract you. He's describing a new sex toy specifically designed for men — one that's being billed as the so-called "first male vibrator." But, while the Hot Octopuss Pulse II definitely presents exciting developments in male-sex-toy technology, it's just another in a long line of sex toys for men.

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How to have Simultaneous Orgasms

It’s the Holy Grail of straight sex: simultaneous orgasms. How many romantic films and TV shows have you seen that don’t depict the (usually young, white, non-disabled, conventionally attractive) hetero couple coming triumphantly at exactly the same time, often during their very first night together?

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Frenulum Orgasms – The Penis’ Best Kept Secret

Frenulum Orgasms – the little-known secret tucked beneath the glans of the penis. This highly sensitive area is packed with nerves capable of unleashing out-of-this-world orgasms. What’s the catch? Penetration has nothing to do with it! Resident blogger Queen P spills the beans on this hidden gem.

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Unusual Sex Toy Tips From Vibrating Wand Fans

When we started making sex toys, we quickly learnt that our customers are just as innovative as we are when it comes to exploring pleasure. Every week they send us their unusual sex toy tips, telling us how they turbo-charge their experience with our products.

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How To Find A Unicorn – Navigating Threesomes Ethically

Threesomes. Unicorns. They sound good in theory, but the risks are great. Girl On The Net gives advice on how to find your third and treat them right.

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PULSE INTERACTIVE Sex Toy Sets

Recommended by Davey Wavey, the PULSE SOLO INTERACTIVE gay couples sets for penises are a world first. Connect online and see who cums first.

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ANAL SEX: GETTING STARTED

Let’s start with a disclaimer: nobody HAS to do anal sex. Or want to try it.

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Last-Minute Sexy Gifts and Deals for a Very Merry Christmas

Here’s your chance to pick up one or more of the best sex toy deals for that special someone on your “naughty” list Ring in the New Year with orgasms galore!

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Can You Have Good Sex After Menopause?

“Is there sex after menopause?” a reader asked, dismayed by her sexual changes. Sex after menopause does have its challenges — that’s why I keep writing [books about senior sex](https://joanprice.com/books). But I’m here from decades past menopause to tell you that life at this age can be fabulous — including the sex.

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Oscillating Vibrators Are the Hot New Trend in Sex Tech

When you use a lot of sex toys, they can all start to blend together—in part because they all seem to vibrate in slight variations of the same way. Some toys may be more powerful than others, but they all pretty much make a basic rumbling motion. Or so I thought—until I learned about Hot Octopuss's new clitoral stimulator, which uses an oscillator to create movement.

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KURVE G-spot Toy Reviews

KURVE G-spot vibrator is a smash hit! Here are just a few of the rave reviews flooding our inboxes with delight. Thirsty for the juicy details from those who’ve experienced KURVE’s squishy tip and Treble and Bass motors first hand?

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Why aficionados like anal (and why you might too)

Anal sex has always had something of a negative press - often by those who haven’t yet had the pleasure. While liking sex has now been accepted for all genders, liking (or even preferring) anal always seemed to cast a shadow upon your character. Which means there’s a host of people out there who may love it - but probably already think they won’t.

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Does A Cock Ring Work With A Strap On?

An intrepid queer couple tried out our ATOM and ATOM PLUS cock rings with their favourite strap-on. Did it work?

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Tech Sex Counts As ‘Real’ Sex

Guest blogger James Mycroft this month tackles the issue of ‘real sex’ versus ‘tech sex’ (i.e. using products like our toys to enhance sex life). And he explains why one isn’t any better (or realer) than the other.

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Sex Aids For People With Mobility Issues

At what point does a ‘sex toy’ become a ‘sex aid’? A mystery for our ages, perhaps. In fact, we’d put sex toys and sex aids in exactly the same category – they’re all things which help us have better sex.

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In Search Of Guilt Free Kink

What happens when your sexual desires don’t match those you were raised to believe were the ‘right’ ones? Sex blogger May More discusses guilt and kink – and how to get over it.

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The Joys of Perineum Stimulation

At Hot Octopuss we’re always trying to find new ways to get you off and engineer turbo-charged orgasms. With the launch of our next-generation cock ring ATOM PLUS we’re not only providing mega-intense vibration for both partners, but we’re also giving some attention to an oft-overlooked area – the perineum.

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Sexy Tricks And Treats For Halloween

Perhaps one of the nicest things about the internet (yes, we know, there are some pretty horrible things about it too) is that celebrations and festivals get to spread further across the world. In the UK, we’ve traditionally been quite bad at Halloween: cheap costumes and a bit of fake blood on one night each year doesn’t exactly make for a scary evening.

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Sex & Disability

Disabled Sex means knowing that pleasure has no limits. No matter your disability, you have a human right to a fulfilling sex life.

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G-spot Orgasms: The Difference It Makes

In this article, we’ll explain how and why G-spot orgasms offer a world of pleasure to vulva owners. Whether you’re single or partnered, read on to get a taste of the wonderous delights of G-spot orgasms.

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Can’t Enjoy Sex Anymore? Reclaiming Your Sex Life

It’s not unusual for vulva-owners to go through times when they can’t enjoy sex in the way they used to. In fact, it’s so common in older women that a major study on the topic was recently published in medical journal Menopause.

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Where are all the sex toys for older adults?

It isn’t every day you see a sex toy on a billboard, and it’s even more rare you’ll see one in the hands of a person in their seventies. But thanks to Grace and Frankie, the Netflix sitcom starring Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda, that’s exactly what people saw(opens in a new tab) when the show’s third season premiered last year. The series, which centers around two friends who face many challenges while trying to create a vibrator for seniors, has brought to light an interesting real-life question: Where are all the sex toys for older people?

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If Using A Sex Toy Counted As Cheating…

Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn’t… oh what’s the use? No matter how many people take the time to patiently explain that sex toys – being inanimate objects – aren’t the same as actual human beings you have sex with, there’ll always be a few people who worry that using a sex toy counts as cheating.

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BOTTOMS UP!

Anal positions to try for maximum pleasure

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WAP: The Eighth Wonder Of The World

You may need to sit down for this one, with your minds (and legs) open. In recent years, women have been taking back their sexuality and with that comes the waterfall that is female ejaculation!

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Kinky Roleplay Anarchy

“If you’d like to give roleplay a try but you want something that lets you decide on the level of power exchange you want, and lets you play with gender however you like, today is your lucky day.” Sophia Reading breaks down kinky roleplay anarchy for folks who want a different take on this BDSM favorite.

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Solo & Couple Players – Here is Why You Must Buy a Sex Toy This Valentine's Day

February 14th - a day full of oh-so-very romantic gestures to demonstrate how much you love that special someone in your life. Here is Why You Must Buy a Sex Toy This Valentine's Day.

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Tight Vagina No Intercourse

I’m 72. I have not been able to have intercourse with my husband for the last five years. It seems like my vaginal canal is very small. I’m not sure I want to use dilators.

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Hands-Free Couples Masturbator: Best Sex Positions

So you’ve picked up an amazing PULSE DUO: suddenly all those weird and wonderful *Cosmo* sex positions are looking more interesting, with the added benefit of vibration for both of you.

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KURVE Demo

Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy

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Hurt by Husband’s Porn Use

My husband is 74 and I am 52 – a 23-year difference in age. He watches porn and masturbates to it every day. It’s always interracial porn. He thinks I don’t know but I do. It hurts me. What can I do?

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Erotica: Edging With A Cock Ring

Regular guest blogger James Mycroft has written some of our most popular blog posts this year. This month he tackles erotica, describing the experience of using our ATOM cock ring… plus another one of our toys (can you work out which one?)… in a very sexy edging scenario.

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Seniors Speak about Sex - Part 2

The happiest and most sexually satisfied seniors communicate concerns and figure out inventive senior sex solutions and adaptations.

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How To Fetlife

FetLife is the greatest free resource on BDSM. Equal parts social network, learning platform, and dating service, Fet has created a culture of openness and celebration around the Lifestyle.

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6 Best Christmas Sex Positions to Spice Up Your Festive Season

Let's focus on Christmas sex! Ho Ho Ho, there are actually a few cheeky Christmas sex positions that are dedicated to this magical time of the year!

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How To Find The Most Unique Sex Toys

It’s natural that humans want to chase variety, in sex as well as elsewhere in life. Same-old-same-old masturbation is pleasurable, of course: even a bad wank is still nice.

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Sex Tech: Making The Sex Toys Of The Future

The world of sex tech is moving incredibly quickly – from new motors that create unique sensations to teledildonic toys that work over a long distance.

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Sex Communication 101

How do you feel about sex communication in your relationship? From open and encouraging, to teasing or shutting down, sex communication can take many forms. Here are our top tips on how to use communication to get the connection and sex life of your dreams.

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Sex Toys Are Good For You

Explore the importance of vaginal health and pleasure in our modern world. Discover how sex toys like the Kurve vibrator can help maintain vaginal health, combat ageing effects, and enhance sexual experiences. Learn about the benefits, debunk myths, and get practical tips for using internal toys. Find out why Hot Octopuss is revolutionising the way we prioritise self-care and pleasure. Read now!

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How To Introduce Couples Sex Toys

Not everyone’s familiar with the idea of couples sex toys, so if you want to introduce them to your partner you might have to do a bit of explanation before you dive in.

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Strengthen Erections - A Urologist’s Tips For Getting Your Penis In Shape

Want to strengthen your erection? Dr Judson Brandeis provides five top tips to help ensure your penis works as expected.

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Aural Sex: 10 Erotic Podcasts To Listen To In Lockdown

Erotic podcasts are booming, and they’re particularly useful if you’re struggling for privacy. Just chuck on those headphones and nobody around you is any the wiser. Here are our picks for the best erotic podcasts.

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Getting Deep: Vaginal Orgasms

Unlocking Pleasure: Exploring Internal Stimulation and Vaginal Orgasms | Discover the inside story on internal pleasure and the elusive G-spot. Learn why internal stimulation counts and how to enhance your sexual experiences. Dive into tips, techniques, and recommended toys for exploring deeper levels of pleasure. Find your path to ultimate satisfaction. Read now!

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Masturbation: Scenes We’d Like To See

It might sound weird to call for more masturbation on TV. After all, we’re already treated to some pretty excellent sexy TV shows, and if we’re after anything more explicit then there’s a whole world of ethical porn to explore.

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Penis Sensitivity 101

Too sensitive? Not sensitive enough? There’s a lot of misinformation out there that sets impossible standards for penis owners. Here are some down-to-earth suggestions by author M. Christian on how to manage your penis sensitivity and get on with having the best sex of your life.

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Afterplay: Best Things to Do After Sex?

You can barely move for foreplay tips on the internet: advice on how to get things started, tips for turning your partner on via sexting and dirty talk, all that stuff.

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5 Reasons to Buy a Guybrator

The patented technology behind PULSE was originally designed to help induce orgasm in men with spinal injuries. It looks way cooler than a bit of medical kit, but it still does the same job.

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Hot Octopuss Wins Male Sex Toy of the Year at 2015 XBIZ Awards

Our PULSE has won Male Sex Toy of the Year at the 2015 XBIZ Awards. The Awards, hosted by adult film superstar James Deen, was held inside a cutting-edge special events venue in downtown Los Angeles last week.

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3 Unexpected Reasons Couples’ Sex Toys Are Essential

Using sex toys was once seen as a solo pleasure – and often a guilty one at that. But in recent years people have been waking up to the idea that sex toys might actually be an *addition* to couples’ sex lives, not a replacement for them.

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5 Of The Best Cock Ring Sex Tips

Got a cock ring? Want to find out how to make the most of it? We’ve got you covered, with this handy guide to the best cock ring sex tips.

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Erotica Stories: Sex & Disability For #MasturbationMonday

As we’ve written in a previous post about the best writers on sex and disability, we’re big fans of erotica publisher Sexy Little Pages and their latest anthology, Silence Is Golden.

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Masturbation As Self-Care

Little known fact: sometimes folks masturbate not just because it feels good, but because it’s good for you too! In this article guest author Sherrylsworld breaks down the importance of masturbation for self-care and gives tips for how you can start a smoking hot mindfulness practice today!

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Friends With Benefits: Is It Right For You?

Friends With Benefits – is that even a real thing? Guest writer Wolfe gives us the nitty-gritty on the what, why, and how of this relationship style. Read on for advice on how to successfully navigate the world of Friends With Benefits.

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Sex & Disability Products

We've collated some of the best Hot Octopuss products that can help people with disability enjoy a new type of pleasure.

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Which Sex World Record Could You Beat?

Last weekend the Hot Octopuss team chatted about sex world records. Are there any categories in which people who use PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL compete? Could they potentially beat the competition?

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Erotica: Threesomes Are Not Like Porn

Here’s a touch of erotica pulled from the author’s personal life experience. It’s been rewritten from the perspective of a penis owner. As a reader, how do you think they did?

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What anal toy is best for me

Imagine the disappointment; you recently discovered you enjoy anal sex, and now you’re starting to excitedly explore the world of anal sex toys. Then, through no fault of your own, you pick a toy so far beyond your sphincter’s current capability that it puts you off anal for life.

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Clitoral Stimulation: More Varied Than You Think

Clitoral Stimulation – If you’ve used the same masturbation technique all your life, it’s easy to forget – or simply never realise – just how many different ways there are to stimulate yourself.

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Leandra Vane – Be Proud of your Phone Porn

Should you be proud of your phone porn? Leandra Vane argues the line between ‘porn’ and other media is much blurrier than you think.

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Hot Octopuss Review of the Month: ‘PULSE Has Saved My Sanity’

Following last month’s PULSE review from Davis, who is paraplegic, we’re pleased to share another amazing product review we’ve received in the past month, this time via our website from a former Marine.

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How To Shop For A Sexy Christmas Gift

The time is fast approaching: we can hear the jingling of bells, we’ve been slightly confused by the John Lewis advert, and at Hot Octopuss HQ we’re already thinking of fun ideas for blogs that will show you some of the sexy Christmas gift options you can buy for your partner.

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PocketPULSE

Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy

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More Brilliant Sex and Disability Bloggers

Following last month’s popular post introducing some stigma-busting sex and disability bloggers, here’s part two, in which Eve Adler, Pillow Princess, Helen’s Toybox and Hedonish talk to us about their work.

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It’s International Masturbation Day!

It’s International Masturbation Day and author Scotty Unfamous wants you to heaux it up. Ever tried humping a pillow or tickling a taint? This article will boredom-proof your solo sex practice as you celebrate an important tradition of the sex-positivity movement.

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If You Don’t Want Sex Anymore, Learn About Responsive Desire

Our resident senior sex expert Joan Price asks how you can test whether responsive desire works for you?

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3 Unusual Mutual Masturbation Tips

May is Masturbation Month! Our favourite month of the year. It means not only are we gifted with spring sunshine (well, we are at HO HQ in London, at any rate) we’re also gifted with an excuse to talk about our favourite topic – wanking – for over four weeks! To celebrate we wanted to share with you some of our top mutual masturbation tips.

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Sometimes Submitting In Bed Helps My Depression

Submitting in bed – There are many ways to manage depression. Here our newest guest blogger, James Mycroft, talks about one way that works for him.

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My Wife Prefers Her Vibrator

Wife Prefers Her Vibrator – “how do I get her to like me instead of the vibrator?”

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PULSE: The Verdict – It’s Sensational!

One of the most stressful times for any sex toy company is shortly after a product has come out, when you’re waiting for the first reviews. And we were no different when we launched PULSE – the new, improved version of our award-winning guybrator. Would people like the upgraded version?

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Why Some Orgasms Are Out Of This World And Others Are Just So-So

Why is it that orgasms are like snowflakes – no two seem exactly the same? Kate Orson asks the experts.

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3 Different Types of Vibrator For Men (Really)

When you read an article about male vibrators, the most commonly cited thing is a prostate massager. We’re so used to hearing ‘vibrator’ and thinking of something long, thin and insertable that something different doesn’t always cross our minds. But, just as the Scots have square sausage, so there’s more than one kind of vibrator for men.

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Can Sex Toys Help With Erectile Dysfunction? JETT Worked For Me

Can sex toys help with erectile dysfunction? The JETT penis vibrator certainly helped with mine, says blogger Michael Knight.

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Getting Started With BDSM: Older Person’s Guide

Author M. Christian delves into how BDSM can become an enjoyable part of anyone’s sexual activities, no matter their age or experience.

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Erotica Stories: Homologous

James Mycroft has written a few thoughtful, sexy guest posts for us over the past few months, on topics like submission and depression and sex as an extreme sport, but this is the first time he’s written full-on erotica.

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Secrets Of A Hands-Free Orgasm

Hands-Free Orgasm. It sounds like the ultimate masturbation holy grail. Being able to kick back, browse porn or read erotica. Surely if it were easy, we’d all be doing it?

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Coffee & Kink – Sex Blogging Saved My Soul

Being a member of a gender or sexual minority can be a lonely place. Most of us are raised with the belief, implicit or explicit, that matters of sexuality are things we do not talk about.

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THIS Cock Ring Took My Sex Life To The Next Level

Cock rings have the power to make you last longer AND come harder. Guest writer M. Christian gives the scoop on ATOM PLUS and what puts it leagues above the rest.

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Demisexual Meaning – Am I Demisexual?

It’s more common than you think – the need to form a close emotional bond before having sex. Guest writer Lucas Jackman unpacks the meaning and identifying traits of demisexuality. Think you or someone you know might be demisexual? Read on.

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BDSM Community – How To Get Involved

If you want to get involved with the BDSM community, welcome! And here’s how to get started.

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Masturbation Habits: Let’s Break The Taboo

Imagine if the overwhelming majority of people in the world enjoyed knitting. Let’s say 95% of men and 81% of women said they’d knitted during their lifetime, and most of them did it regularly. On average people knitted somewhere between 8 and 15 times each month. You’d expect us all to be talking about it quite a lot, right?

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Our Survey Of Over-55s Smashes Stereotypes About Sex And Ageing

According to our sex and ageing survey, seniors experiment more with sex as they get older, are almost as happy with their sex lives as younger people, and often own more sex toys.

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BDSM & Kink

The Hot Octopuss BDSM Hub promotes BDSM as a healthy form of sexual expression. View our range of premium leather bondage gear and accessories.

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Games To Play With Couples Sex Toys

It’s easy to fall into the trap of discussing sex toys in the kind of flowery language you’d use in a romance novel. Particularly when you’re talking about couples’ sex toys – they’re ‘sensual’ things, that you use to ‘seduce’ your partner.

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Best Adult Halloween Celebration Ideas

Want to know why you need to celebrate Halloween this year and need tips on how to enjoy this Halloween as an adult? You are in the right place!

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Sexless Marriage

We have been married 27 years, together for 30. We had a healthy sex life until a year and a half ago, when my husband stopped. No kissing, no touching. I tried to discuss this with him, and he said he needed to see a doctor. He never did. He seems to have zero interest in us as a couple. We are good friends.

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What’s the Best Vibrating Cock Ring?

The humble cock ring is one of the cheapest, most popular and most effective sex toys for penis-owners and couples. Whether you want a cock ring in its most basic form to maintain erection or achieve a stronger one, or a full bells-and-whistles version to provide additional stimulation for both partners, the range available is enormous.

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ATOM

Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy

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Orgasm Health Benefits: Nine Unexpected Reasons To Get Your ‘Vitamin O’

We all know orgasms are fun. But did you know they’re scientifically proven to be wholesome too?

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Masters of Sex: Why I took a year off sex blogging to go back to school

Former lawyer Mel from Voluptasse explains how she challenged academic snobbery by presenting an in-depth study of sex toys as part of her Masters degree – and discusses why sex bloggers might want to back up sex with scholarship.

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What Is Non-binary?

Regardless of how you identify, your gender was assigned to you at birth – and you had no say in it. That’s why everybody benefits from a critical analysis of gender. Here is the first article in our 3-part NB series, but before we hop into pronouns – and into bed – let’s start with the basics. Series by guest author, Elliott Ennis.

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How To Masturbate In Lockdown

Personal space has taken on a whole new importance in the time of coronavirus. If you’re finding it helpful but tricky to masturbate in lockdown, here are some strategies.

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Situational ED: It’s Not Your Dick, It’s The Drugs

I have slept with a lot of men who have worried about their erections, and it’s time we talked about situational ED and drugs.

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Have Amazing Sex Without Penetration

What counts as sex? From the first kids who asked this question in the playground, to the sheepish couple trying to negotiate their way out of a train toilet without getting arrested, we’ve long been worried about a question that doesn’t really need an answer.

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Top Sex Toys For Seniors – Suzanne Portnoy

One of the benefits of being a prolific sex blogger and erotic memoirist a decade ago was trying out the sex toys I was regularly sent by toy companies. Now that I don’t do so much writing, the gifts have stopped, but I still have quite an arsenal of equipment to add spice to my bedroom activities.

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Tackling Sexual Shame – Reimagining Sexual Pleasure

Dr. Jane Fleishman weighs in on sexual shame. This article combines research with expert advice on how anyone can improve their relationship with their body and their sex life.

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5 Fun Facts You Didn’t Know About Porn

Fun. Ethical. Good for you! Could it be... porn? Resident blogger Queen P dishes up all the reasons you – and your partners – oughta feel great about enjoying erotic entertainment.

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Queer, Trans & Non-Binary

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PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL DEMO

Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy

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Solving The Mystery Of The G-spot

The Mystery of the G-spot: Wondering how to locate the G-spot in your partner or yourself? With the right information and tools, we think you’ll be pleased with what you find. The G-spot: maybe it’s not so elusive after all.

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BDSM Power Exchange

True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...

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Loss of Clitoral Orgasm

I’m 65 and have had difficulty with clitoral orgasms all my adult life, but in the last six to seven months, it’s become almost impossible. The pandemic is not an issue – if anything, we are more sexually active than usual.

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7 Random Facts About Brewer’s Droop

Temporary erectile dysfunction caused by alcohol – or ‘brewer’s droop’ – is something most men understand only too well. Overdoing the booze on a night out can mean a frustrating, horny evening once you’re home.

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What is ‘Drafting Season’?

Helping you keep up with dating trends, we look at drafting season

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Childless Women & Sex: Unveiling Sexual Intimacy Realities

Delve into the multifaceted world of childlessness and its profound influence on sexual intimacy. Explore the emotional complexities, societal perceptions, and personal journeys that shape the sex lives of childless individuals. Gain a deeper understanding of desire, self-perception, and the unique challenges faced by those who embrace a childless path.

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Meet The Stigma-Busting Disabled Sex Bloggers

At Hot Octopuss we’ve been working closely with sex bloggers for over five years, and it’s been exciting in that time to watch more and more disabled sex bloggers, including those with chronic health conditions, join the community.

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International Women’s Day: Each For Equal In The Adult Industry

The theme for this year’s International Women’s Day is ‘Each For Equal’ – underlining that our individual actions work towards (or against) equality. As a woman in the sex industry, I’m highlighting four key things people can do to contribute to this goal.

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Happy Holidays from Hot Octopuss

At Hot Octopuss we believe in living life on your own terms – and that includes the holidays! Winter holidays can bring up all kinds of feelings, so we are extending a heartfelt wish that you’re able to celebrate in a way that genuinely brings you happiness. Here’s a look at the different ways our team members spend their holidays. From our homes to yours, we wish you a most festive season.

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Non-binary Sex – An Intimacy Crash Course For NB Folks & Their Partners

For the final installation of our NB 101 series, guest author Elliott Ennis is going to give us a crash course in sexual intimacy. This article touches on the topics of support, communication, feelings, what to do when things go sideways, and what to do so things go right.

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Butt Plugs For Beginners

Butt plugs can be a non-intimidating – and *very* fulfilling – component of anal play. In this article, author Queen P delivers her tried-and-true recommendations for selecting the right plug and lube, as well as tips for getting to know your new best friend.

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BDSM Communication: Older Person’s Guide to BDSM, Part 2

Older person’s guide to BDSM, Part 2 – Author M. Christian advises on communication and bondage for seniors exploring BDSM.

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The First Time You Use A New Sex Toy…

When your brand new sex toy arrives on your doorstep, what’s the first thing you do? Run inside and show your partner? Rip off the packaging eagerly and get started? Book out an hour or two in your diary to really get to grips with it?

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Good Sex Tool: Touch Plus Imagery Sexercise

Neuroscientists have a saying that neurons (brain cells) that fire (get active) together wire (develop more connections) together. What that means is that the more we use our minds to make connections between pleasurable sensations and experiences, the more intense and pleasurable our erotic sensations can become.

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PULSE DUO LUX – My First Experience With This Couple’s Toy

New toys can be intimidating, especially when exploring them with a partner. Fresh from the research lab is guest author, Sophia Reading. This article is packed with advice and experience to support your exploration into the wonderful world of couple’s sex toys.

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Mutual Masturbation Tips For Couples

Ever thought about masturbating with your partner? While at first the idea can be surprising, couples often find that partnered masturbation comes quite naturally and adds an incredible dimension of hotness and closeness in the bedroom. Guest author M. Christian gives his top tips for couples exploring mutual masturbation.

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Male Sex Toy Tips And Tricks

Usually when you get a new male sex toy, there’s that initial period of excitement where you just can’t put it down. Like other new additions to your ‘fun’ collection – Xboxes, new kitchen gadgets, subscriptions to Netflix – every evening you’re drawn to it until you get over that initial ‘newness’ and start taking it massively for granted.

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Introducing the Hot Octopuss Pocket PULSE

One of the trickiest things about creating new sex toys is keeping the secret before they launch. For a few months now we’ve been hopping up and down to tell you about our newest product – Pocket PULSE – and today we’re allowed to tell you all about it!

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Top Anal Masturbation Tips

May is Masturbation Month! Which, for wankers like us, means we have an excuse to share with you some top anal masturbation tips. If you want to spend time exploring your body and experimenting with new ways to wank, this blog post is for you!

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It’s Masturbation May And We’ve Got Some Celebrating To Do!

May is Masturbation Month and needless to say, it’s our FAVOURITE time of year. There are incredibly fun and rebellious ways to smash the stigma around masturbation while exploring new and fulfilling techniques for self-pleasure. Could your solo sex routing use some inspiration? Read on.

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The Ultimate Guide To Outercourse

This Ultimate Guide to Outercourse will introduce you to one of pleasure’s undiscovered gems. We were only recently introduced to the word ‘outercourse’ (thanks, CNN!), and as it neatly describes one of our favourite kinds of sex, we thought we’d write a brief guide.

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Premature Ejaculation Training: Do Sex Toys Help?

If you’re here, chances are you’re worried about how quickly you ejaculate. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual complaints among men, and if it bothers you then you’re definitely not alone.

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Male Vibrator Tips – Bringing A Male Vibrator Into Your Bedroom

Introducing your girlfriend or wife to your favourite sex toy can be a little tricky. Some women may feel threatened by the presence of a male vibrator in your bedroom. Others might not know how to use one, or worry that they’re not able to compete with the toy when it comes to giving you the most amazing orgasms. Well, we’re here to help.

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Who Do I Believe: My Husband or His Penis?

My husband says he still desires me sexually, but his penis says otherwise. It takes a lot of oral sex to get him aroused, and even then, his erection doesn’t last long enough for sex. It doesn’t seem worth the trouble to try to get him worked up enough for something to happen, so I usually pretend that I don’t notice his hints that he’s in the mood.

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I Lose My Erection Without Manual Stimulation During Sex

I am a 73-year-old male with erection problems. I can enjoy sex with erections using Cialis and good lubrication, but I lose my erection quickly when either I or my wife stop the manual stimulation. It’s frustrating as I have to continue the manual stimulation — in other words, masturbation.

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8 Reasons To Try A Couples’ Sex Toy

If you’ve never tried a couples’ sex toy, then now is probably the perfect time to pick one up: we’ve just launched the next generation of our award-winning couples’ sex toy – the PULSE DUO LUX.

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Vaginismus: Interview With An Expert

Vaginismus is a condition that causes involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles (or ‘kegels’), and it can make any kind of vaginal penetration difficult and painful.

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All the Different Ways I Tried To Come on SSRIs

In her first guest post for us, comedian Andrea Hubert described losing her orgasm when she went on antidepressants. Now she takes us through the gory details of how she got it back. Warning: perhaps best not to try some of these methods at home (but, er, definitely don’t do them in public either).

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How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner: Part 2

How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner Pt. II: back by popular demand! Here’s Queen P’s definitive shopping guide, aka “How To Buy Your Girlfriend A Sex Toy She Actually Wants For Valentine’s Day.”

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Happy National Sex Toy Day: Top Tips To Make Your Sex Toys Work For You

To celebrate National Sex Toy Day happening on 4th November, we asked our esteemed comedian guest writer Andrea to share some top tips on how to make your sex toys work for you… with some hilarious results.

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All tied up in knots?

Discover the captivating world of Shibari bondage with this beginner's guide. Whether you're curious about tying someone up, being tied up yourself, or simply here for engaging conversation, delve into the art and practice of Shibari. Learn what Shibari is, its origins, and its role in rope bondage. Explore the diverse reasons why people enjoy Shibari, from exploring desires to sensory experiences.

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9 Secret Tips Every Couple Must Try In Bed For Great Sex

Here are 9 awesome sex tips and toys that will set your bedroom (or wherever you choose to do it) on fire!

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Male Masturbators Don’t All Look Like Fleshlights

When you think of male masturbators, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Probably a long plastic container with a soft, textured sleeve inside – maybe modelled on the vagina or anus of your favourite porn star.

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Foot Worship

Author M. Christian breaks down one of the most popular fetishes: foot worship. From boots to heels to bare feet, and from pedicures to BDSM scenes, this article covers it all. Want tips on how to tell your partner? You’ll find those in here too.

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Erection Problems

Erection problems or erectile dysfunction (ED) don't have to put a stop to a satisfying sex life. Hot Octopuss products could be the answer. Our range of penis toys can help you orgasm without an erection.

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Date Night Doesn’t Work

How do you get your love life back when ‘date night’ is more likely to produce snoring than sex? We’re a couple in our 70s, and we’re struggling to avoid becoming like our friends, who tell us sex isn’t important to them anymore.

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What is a Cervical Orgasm?

The cervix is a lesser known pleasure point, often forgotten in the debate about whether the G-spot exists or not. Kate Orson tells you why it’s worth investigating the cervical orgasm.

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How To Choose The Best Male Sex Toy

The right sex toy is a decent investment. If you pick something awesome then chances are it’ll be by your side, in a drawer or proudly displayed on your bedside table, for a good long time. So what questions do you need to ask to make sure you choose the best male sex toy for you?

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7 Ways Straight People Can Celebrate Pride Month

Pride Month is here and it’s not just queer folx who are celebrating! Fresh from inside queer/trans/BIPOC land, I’ve bundled my best suggestions to fuel your fire for allyship and bring some sparkle into your June. Happy Pride!

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Why Your Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm – And What To Do About It

Ever wonder if your lady love is faking her orgasm? In this article guest writer, James Mycroft shines some light on the orgasm gap and what you can do in the bedroom to make her feel like the luckiest woman alive.

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Years No Intercourse - Will it Hurt

After more than 15 years of no intercourse, will it hurt and what can I do that will help?

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Interfering Family Won’t Give Me Privacy

I’m a widow, alone for the past five years. I moved in with my daughter’s family at the beginning of the pandemic so I could help teach and supervise my grandchildren while the parents worked. They think everything is going fine. I’m going nuts!

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Solo Sex For Seniors

For seniors, masturbation is an important part of our self-care practice. Not only does it cause a mood boost, but it also keeps our genitals functioning and healthy. Here are the best toys and practices for seniors looking to bring a spark to their solo-sex practice.

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Finger Vibrator Reviews: Our Top Five DiGiT Posts So Far

Since our sleek and sexy DiGiT launched last month we’ve been eagerly watching the finger vibrator reviews come buzzing in. So what’s the testers’ verdict? Here are our top five reviews so far…

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Hot Orgasm Tips For Guys

For most guys the way you orgasm, as well as the ease or strength of it, can change significantly over the years. At nineteen you may have been able to have an orgasm so powerful you punched holes in the drywall, but as you age there are lots of things that can affect the quantity and intensity of your orgasms.

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Edging With JETT

Edging with JETT – learn this advanced method of using penis vibrators to blow your orgasms right out of the water. Edging is a wild way to build intensity and overcome both premature and delayed ejaculation while having the strongest orgasms of your life. Authored by guest writer, M. Christian.

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Anal Sex For Beginners

For the newly initiated, anal sex can be just as scary as it is seductive. With the proper knowledge and preparation, anal sex can be approached with confidence and result in unbelievable pleasure for all parties involved. In this article, Queen P delivers a step-by-step guide to help newbies grow from nervous shy-babies into full-fledged booty queens.

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Kink Scenes – Top 3 Beginner Friendly Scenes

True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...

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Show Stigma the Finger

We believe the world would be a better place if everyone enjoyed healthier and happier sex lives. The principal obstacles to that are the stigmas and taboos associated with sex and masturbation. We want you to join our movement and show us just how you feel about sexual oppression through stigmas and stereotypes.

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Getting Started With BDSM: Older Person’s Guide

Author M. Christian delves into how BDSM can become an enjoyable part of anyone’s sexual activities, no matter their age or experience.

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Porn Stars: Our Secret World with Hot Octopuss Sex Toy Designers

Leading sex toy design company Hot Octopuss will be featuring in the 3rd episode of 'Porn Stars: Our Secret World' airing on Monday 15th November on Channel 5

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Improve Your Sex Life In 2021: Senior Sex New Year’s Resolutions

Improve Your Sex Life In 2021: Here are Joan Price’s top tips as well as input from readers like you!

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Mental Health Benefits Of Masturbation

When it comes to mental health, some wellbeing practices are more enjoyable than others. Let’s take a look at one of our favourites: masturbation. Solo sex can be an exciting and pleasurable way to boost your brain and elevate your mood. Go on, have a wank. It’s good for you!

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Male Sex Toys: The BDSM Possibilities

When we say ‘BDSM sex toys’, most people’s first thoughts are of whips and chains. Bondage restraints, floggers, canes: anything that’s used to cause sexy pain or hold your submissive in position.

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5 Things You Didn’t Know About Masturbation

Flicking the bean. Busting a nut. Think you know everything about masturbation? Put your knowledge to the test with these fun and surprising findings by resident blogger, Queen P.

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What Does ‘Good In Bed’ Mean Post Menopause?

When a woman tells me a partner is ‘really good in bed’, I always wonder what that actually means for her, especially as this often changes after menopause.

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Why I’m Not Settling For OK Orgasms Anymore

Think vulva orgasms begin and end with the clit? Think again! Guest writer Sophia Reading offers an insightful and practical guide to exploring the G-spot solo and as a couple.

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Top Video Games For Couples And Unexpected Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Video games have millions of fans all over the world and are becoming more popular during quarantine. You might be surprised to learn that the best video games for couples can help you save your love. Find out everything about it in our article.

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Sex Robots: The Weird, Wonderful and WTF

You surely can’t have missed the recent news that the world’s first commercial sex robot is now on the market. The Guardian reported thoroughly on Harmony – a placid, realistic-looking humanoid who apparently can do more than your average robot.

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BDSM Troubleshooting – How To Be A Good Dom

Let’s be real: if you’re experimenting with BDSM, you’re going to run into problems. This is a sign that you’re learning and growing! The good news is that you’re not alone. In all likelihood, what you’re going through has been experienced by others (who’ve lived to tell the tale!) Below are common issues that kinksters have historically run into... and the ways in which they kicked those issues’ asses.

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Unusual Masturbation Tips: Do Try This At Home

There are plenty of magazine columnists ready to offer you sex tips, from the sublime to the utterly ridiculous, like Cosmo’s infamous ‘put a doughnut on his penis then eat it off’ advice. There aren’t as many willing to offer unusual masturbation tips – especially if you’ve got a dick.

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Unusual Sexy Christmas Gifts For Your Loved One's

‘Tis the season… to feverishly google for hours in search of presents your loved ones might actually like. It can be particularly tough if you’re looking for a sexy gift for a partner you’ve been with for a while. You’ve been through the obvious already – but you still want to make them feel special. Here are our top suggestions.

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Designing The World’s Most Powerful Cock Ring

With most cock rings, the wearer benefits most from the product, with little focus being given to the partner. We wanted to create a true couples’ toy that would be as intense for the partner as the wearer.

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How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner

Vibrators, cock rings, bondage cuffs, oh my! The decision to buy a sex toy for a partner can be thrilling... and nerve wracking. In this article, Queen P gives some pro tips on how to gift your partner a sex toy that they’ll use and love.

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Surprising Facts About The Penis

It’s time we give the finger to the limiting – and outdated – beliefs about the penis. Here are the must-know facts for every penis owner who wants to level up their confidence and sex life. Article by guest writer, M. Christian.

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Porn You Can Feel Good About

You may have heard the buzz about Pornhub removing 80% of its content due to controversy around its contributors. Author Queen P delivers the lowdown on the practices of the adult film industry and gives her top resources for the most erotic, raw, and all-around good vibes porn you can feel good about.

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ATOM PLUS LUX Demo

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‘There Is No Word For It’ – On Language, Sex And Gender Diversity

Serge Nicholson, Sex and Relationship Therapist, on how trans and non-binary people can talk about their bodies when the traditional terms don’t fit, and ways to add gender diversity to traditional sex toy marketing.

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Celebrate National Couples Day With 5 Best Sex Positions That are Even Hotter with Toys

Today is National Couple’s Day – the perfect time to celebrate with your partner in crime, your ride or die, your pain in the…well, you know what we mean (wink wink). Why not spice things up with these 5 best sex positions which are even better with toys?

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Have You Considered These Prostate Cancer Sex Aids?

When we talk about sex after prostate cancer, a lot of the discussion is focused on the physical things: whether you can get or maintain an erection, or changes in sensation or ejaculation. So discussing prostate cancer sex aids, there’s a temptation to focus purely on the physical sensation – on toys like PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, which men can use to ejaculate even when flaccid.

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Black Friday Male Sex Toys for Hands Free Orgasms & Ejaculate Like A Pro

Hands-on masturbation is overrated. So, if you want to experience a cross-eyeing, hands-free ejaculation, read on. It’s time to go pro and cum like never before with the handy hands-free ejaculation toys and techniques we’ll be sharing below.

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How To Use Anal Toys

It’s Anal August and if you don’t know what that means, well we’re here to tell you! Anal August is a month dedicated to exploring the universal orifice that is the anus! Whether you’re a newbie to this precious little cavity or you’ve been putting god-knows-what up your butt since day one, we have some hot tips on how to use anal toys from our guest writer Queen P!

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New Sexual Pleasures For The Penis-equipped

Greetings, my fellow possessors of a particular. anatomical appendage! If you don’t mind, I’d like to ask you something: what’s the first thing that comes to mind when I say sex?

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Impact Play And Power Exchange: Older Person’s Guide To BDSM Part 3

Impact Play and Power Exchange: In part three of his Senior BDSM series, author M. Christian advises on the risks and pleasures of impact play, role-play, and power exchange.

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Cock Cameras, Sexy Selfies, and Other DIY Porn

Last weekend saw the return of the ETO Show – an event run by the UK sex industry’s ETO Magazine, where sex toy inventors, lube wizards and other adult industry folks gathered to show off their wares.

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Product Demo Videos

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Masturbation Techniques: Breaking The ‘Death Grip’

Ever heard of the ‘death grip’, especially in relation to masturbation? It’s a term coined by sex advice columnist Dan Savage in his column Savage Love, and it refers to the method where – to put it bluntly – you squeeze your dick as hard as possible to try and maximise the sensations.

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How To Support Your Bisexual Partner (who everyone assumes is straight)

Many folks have bisexual partners and unfortunately, this part of their identity often gets pushed to the back burner. In this article, author Sophia Reading delivers clear and insightful action steps for people who want to be more supportive of their bisexual/pansexual partners.

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Surprising Facts About The Clit

The clitoris: is it a myth, a mystery . . . or a carnivorous plant? We searched far and wide for the most interesting and least-known facts about the clit. Curious to learn more about the only body part whose exclusive purpose is to provide pleasure? Go on, read it.

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What Is Delayed Ejaculation?

You’ve probably heard of premature ejaculation – whether it’s creams and condoms designed to numb the penis to hold back orgasm, or simply stories of occasions when sex has ended all-too-quickly. But what about delayed ejaculation? When you struggle to orgasm – during sex or masturbation – and find you’re exhausted long before you reach the desired climax?

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7 Moves To Up Your Blowjob Game

If you’re dating a penis-owner, chances are, they want a blow job. But what if you don’t like performing oral sex or you just don’t know what to do? Here are field-tested tips for your inspiration and experimentation. Article by resident author, Queen P.

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Death Grip Masturbation And Other Search Stories

If you’ve never delved into Google Analytics for a sex website before, then you’ve not lived. Somewhere deep in the console which tells us boring yet important things (how many people read this blog, where people tend to come from to buy our awesome sex toys, etcetera) there is info that tells a much more interesting story.

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DiGiT Sex Toy Design: Creating The Perfect Finger Vibe

We launched DiGiT, our first wearable finger vibe that puts orgasms at your fingertips. The latest in cutting-edge sex toy design, DiGiT curves seamlessly around your fingers like a custom piece of jewellery to become an extension of your body.

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Sex For Anxiety And Depression

While your doctor might not exactly prescribe sex as a treatment for anxiety and depression... we think it’s great! Plenty of studies demonstrate the mental and emotional benefits of sexual activity. Guest writer Sherrylsworld breaks it down with actionable tips that you can try, well, right now if you want to!

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Zentai Bio

Zentai is an agender, submissive switch who specializes in extreme play. This is their biography. Say hello and ask a question.

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Anti-Valentine’s Day – How To Be Single On February 14th

Single on Valentine’s Day, or part of a blissfully rebellious relationship? Anti-Valentine’s Day can be a hell of a good time! Both single and coupled folks are lifting their glasses to this new tradition of reclaiming February 14th. It’s a way of giving a big ‘fuck you’ to overpriced chocolates and lingerie that your girlfriend doesn’t actually want. Instead, let’s give a big thumbs up to doing whatever we damn well please on this special day.

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Kelly Gordon Bio

Kelly Gordon is Hot Octopuss' sex and disability lead. She advises the business and its customers on the best ways to enjoy great sex. Ensuring disability is no barrier to pleasure.

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Ask Zentai: How do I come out as a chastity bottom?

How do I make known my status as a submissive omega chastity bottom? I love being the last on the list with a tiny nubbed dicklet. But how do I accept myself enough to reveal my truth in public?

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Using Hands-Free Sex Toys For Pegging

According to Google Trends, there’s been a threefold increase in searches for ‘pegging’ in the last few years – and interest in pegging shows no sign of slowing down. Perhaps partly because people are becoming more open about exploring their kinks, and partly thanks to an increase in pop culture references to pegging – like that one hot scene in Deadpool.

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Joan Price On Her ‘Completely Real And Unscripted’ Film, ‘Guide To Wicked Sex: Senior Sex’

We’ve been working with senior sex educator Joan Price for several years and have learned so much about becoming a more inclusive sex toy company from her. This year she’s been extremely busy, not only with her usual work talking out loud about senior sex, but with a new book, Sex After Grief, and ‘Guide To Wicked Sex: Senior Sex’, a film she made with sex educator and porn performer jessica drake. With both launching this month, we caught up with her to find out more.

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2021 Sex Positive Manifest-heaux

Calling all self-proclaimed sluts and sex positivists! Let’s make 2021 our heaux-iest year yet. Author Shakira Scott pens an inspiring Manifest-heaux for those of us who aspire to slut it up in the year ahead. (Pro tip: You’ll probably want a pen, paper, and a bottle of bubbly handy.)

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Pleasure Rebels

Pleasure Rebels is a weekly podcast by Hot Octopuss hosted by Kelly Gordon that talks about sex, sexuality, disability, gender and how to have better sex.

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How To Enhance Your Orgasm Zones

By adding simultaneous stimulation to more genital regions to the mix, a wider area of the brain’s genital sensation center is activated, creating more intense sensations as they blend and combine, enhancing our sexual experience and increasing our orgasmic potential.

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PULSE & Disability – How It Works

PULSE DUO and PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL have a unique design that specifically combats sexual dysfunction in patients with physical or neurological disabilities without the need for health practitioner intervention.

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JETT DEMO

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Best Sex Life: How To Have Messy, Cathartic, Soul-Cleansing Sex On The Regular

Are you having the best sex of your life? Spoiler: the answer’s probably No. In this article, our resident blogger Jam shows you exactly how to vanquish any blockages and start having your best sex life today.

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Boring Sex Begone!

Our newest writer makes a splash with this hard-hitting article on boring sex. Written with long term relationships in mind, this article delivers advice and concrete steps that you can take to start having a better sex life . . . tonight! Behold, guest author Sophia Reading’s take on banishing boring sex for good.

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Sex With Vaginismus (When You Don’t Even Know You Have It)

Sex blogger Petra Pan on undiagnosed vaginismus and the impact on your sex life.

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Rimming, Rim Jobs, Eating Ass: You Got This!

Your Heaux Fairy Godmother Scotty Unfamous returns with a rimming field guide unlike any other. If ever you had a question about the *proper* way to lick a booty hole, you’ll find the answer here.

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How Soon After Giving Birth Can I Have Sex?

There are few events that have as transformative an effect on your body as giving birth, and yet it’s a occurrence that’s not just commonplace in society but expected of most with a womb and vagina

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DiGiT Demo

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How To Get Started With Kink

Whether you’ve had kinky fantasies as far back as you can remember or you just want to try something new, everyone’s got to start somewhere when it comes to exploring their darker desires. But where? We asked some committed kinksters how they made their BDSM debuts. Also see our recommended resources at the end.

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Bisexual or Bi-Curious? We got you

Bisexual: “the potential to be attracted to more than one gender.” If you’re bi or questioning here are some resources to support your journey. Let’s put an end to bi-erasure (and start feeling good about what we wank off to!) Article by M. Christian.

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International Women’s Day

Wishing a very merry International Women’s Day to all self-identified women! And giving a little extra squeeze to nonbinary friends who may mistakenly be shouted out by *sigh* well-meaning individuals. Those of us who don’t identify as female still appreciate, honour, and even geek out on the resilience and triumphs of the women in our lives. Without any further ado, here’s an inspiring interview with our founder, Julia Margo.

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BDSM Problems – When Things Don’t Go As Planned

Chances are if you’ve tried something new, whether in the dungeon or the bedroom, you’re no stranger to the above statements. In all reality, new scenes rarely go as planned. Here are some tips for navigating BDSM problems.

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The ATOM PLUS Cock Ring, Sex Weasels, Battery-Charged Frogs and Our Weirdest Review Ever

We love Violet Fenn’s brilliant sex writing, particularly when she’s educating the mainstream via Metro UK about the joys of such niche sexual activities as sounding, electro sex and alien egg-laying dildos.

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G-Spot Toys: Should I Buy One For My Partner?

If your partner has expressed desire to explore G-spot stimulation, then the answer is simple: you should most definitely buy her a G-spot toy. But if either of you have any apprehension, we’ll address that in this article. Read on to bust the myths and learn how to pick out the very best G-spot toys for your lucky lady.

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Masturbation Tips For Men With Mobility Issues

Mobility issues can make it difficult – or sometimes impossible – to masturbate independently. Yet as a society we’re rubbish at talking about it – sex and masturbation tips in magazines often focus on the incredibly flexible or the downright superhuman.

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Prostate Stimulation For Newbies

Prostate stimulation can provide loads of pleasure for men and other AMAB folx. This hot button offers a satisfying solution for those with erectile dysfunction and for penis owners determined to crack the nut of multiple orgasms. Check out this article by Queen P for beginner-friendly tips and tricks that will set you up for butt stuff bliss.

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Being Single: How To Kick Ass At Being Single

Being single: while we’re not going to pretend like it’s easy – especially during lockdown – it is possible for singledom to be a time of great value. Resident blogger Queen P offers some friendly guidance on how to get the most out of flying solo.

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What’s The Sexiest Gift You’ve Given (Or Received)?

We’re a sentimental lot here at Hot Octopuss HQ. When Christmas comes around we’re not just here to help you choose a great sexy gift or recommend cool Christmas nights out, we’re also keen to hear your own stories.

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How To Celebrate National Orgasm Day

National Orgasm Day happens every year on July 31. This year, it falls on a Saturday, so really there’s no reason why you couldn’t celebrate all day — or all weekend even. We won’t judge! Here are a few fun ideas of how to celebrate National Orgasm Day.

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How To Talk Dirty (Even If You’re Nerdy)

Dirty talk can crank up the heat in the bedroom – well, as long as you can get past the awkward part. Guest writer Sophia Reading cooked up a beginner’s guide to dirty talk, especially for grown-up geeks. Go on, you naughty wizard – talk nerdy to me.

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Sex After Lockdown

So… can we f*ck yet? Guest author Scotty Unfamous has a field guide for heuxs who are re-entering the wild world of casual-ish sex. In this article we’ll dive into risk assessment, best practices, and what to do if you’ve forgotten how to sex. Go on, get that nut.

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Chronic Pain And Sex – Solutions For A Blissful Love Life

Chronic pain and sex? No need to despair! While living with chronic pain is no cakewalk, it doesn’t have to be the end of your sex life. With the right tools, support, and mindset, one can discover creative solutions and breathe new life into the bedroom.

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Ask Zentai: Prostate Stimulation & KURVE

KURVE sounds like it could be an interesting prostate massager/p-spot stimulator for guys in the same way the tip “smooshes” out flat. I’m wondering if it had the reach/length so-to-speak to be able to do that where the average guy’s prostate is a few inches inside their bum…

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I Cannot Imagine Life Without Orgasms

I am 58. For six years after my husband died, I did not have sex with anyone. I masturbated and reached orgasm with no problem. I felt like I was too overweight to be with a new man. Then I lost weight and felt really good about myself.

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How To Clean Your Sex Toys

A survey by adult superstore Adam & Eve has revealed that only 57 per cent of men clean their sex toys every time they use them, and more than a third never clean their sex toys at all. The figures for those identifying as female are better, but still not ideal: 70 per cent clean their toys after every use, but 19 per cent take the ‘come as you are’ approach.

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Husband Gets Off by Himself, Doesn’t Want Me

I am 66 and my husband is 67. We married four years ago after being together just six months, but I felt I knew him, and he was a kind, genuine person. Sex was good for the first year, but since then, he hasn’t wanted to have sex with me. He is always watching pornos. He always did watch porn – he told me so.

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Secretary Movie Review

Long before 50 Shades of Grey there was Secretary, the 2002 film based on a short story written by Mary Gaitskill in 1988. And yes, the main character’s name is Mr. Grey. Nineteen years and a lifetime of sexcapades after my first viewing, I rewatched the film. My objective: to analyze it from a grown-ass kinky adult perspective. Did the second viewing of this movie make my inner sadist facepalm with disappointment or inspire me to dig out the toy box with glee? Here are my thoughts on the infamous BDSM film, Secretary.

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Best Sex Toy Deals Black Friday & Cyber Monday 2023

Enjoy Hot Octopuss's best Black Friday sex toy sales; shop direct from Hot Octopus to ensure you get the best deals. Grab a bargain or two now before you miss out. Have fun!

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Hot Octopuss Review of the Month: Sex Toys Over 50

Following last month’s awesome ATOM PLUS review from Violet Fenn, which got a great response when we republished it on our blog, we’ve decided to start sharing more of the amazing reviews we get for our products here. Today we’re sharing a review of PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL from Amazon that talks about using sex toys over 50.

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All About PULSE SOLO INTERACIVE: Hot Octopuss’s Mind-blowing App-controlled New Sex Toy

Meet Hot Octopuss's new toy - PULSE SOLO INTERACTIVE, a bluetooth hands-free penis vibrator. This penis vibrator makes long distance remote control and adult content sync easier than ever.

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Gay Man in India: Am I Exploiting Lonely Men?

I am a 60-year-old man who enjoys the company of senior men over 75. Being in India where homosexuality awareness is still in its early stages, few gay men of 75+ are aware that they are gay. Others suppress themselves due to religious and social skewed teachings. Hence it remains very difficult to find a partner here.

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Seek Woman for Cuddling and Cunnilingus

I’m 75 years old and have had only one erection in 10 years. Yet I would love to meet women, any age, for friendship and sex. To me, sex is touching, kissing, cunnilingus, fondling, laughing, and enjoying things together.

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Top 10 Weird Amazon Sex Toy Reviews

Amazon is a whirling vortex of sex toy horror stories if you look closely. We wouldn’t recommend buying your sex toys on Amazon as a matter of course – often the products themselves aren’t exactly what you expect, and there are many sellers who are offering things made from questionable materials.

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Halloween’s Top Sex Scenes In Horror Movies

There’s a famous psychological experiment which explored the link between fear and sexual arousal. A female researcher stood on two different bridges – one a scary, wobbly suspension bridge and the other a much more solid bridge, which wouldn’t induce fear responses when people walked across.

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Andrew Gurza Tries PULSE

Disability campaigner Andrew Gurza writes breathtakingly honest and insightful pieces for Huffington Post and other platforms about his experience of being a queer disabled man navigating sex and relationships. When we became aware of his work we immediately wanted to send him PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, which was designed to be useful for some people with mobility issues. He said he’d love to try it. This was his experience.

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World BDSM Day – History And Short-Notice Ways To Celebrate

We just found out it’s World BDSM Day. Aside from self-flagellating because we didn’t know it existed until now, we’ve also been investigating where the day came from and thinking about ways to celebrate at short notice. So here are our findings:

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5 Tips For When You’re Too Tired for Sex

Xennials have a running joke that we’re always tired. Our exhaustion is driven by the fact that we feel old, we’re working too many hours, and “adulting” is harder than we thought it would be. This constant low-grade tiredness stops us from doing what we want to do. Like have sex with our gorgeous partners.

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What do you do when your brain says yes to sex but your body says no?

When blogger Zec Richardson became disabled, his first concern wasn’t that he could no longer walk. It was: ‘What about sex?”. He shares his best tips for keeping the flame burning.

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Worst DIY Sex Toy Fails

Let’s face it, the words ‘DIY’ and ‘sex toy’ go together about as well as ‘vodka’ and ‘snowboarding.’ The two should never mix, and you can guarantee that if they do someone’s going to get seriously hurt. But that doesn’t stop some people from pressing on regardless.

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PULSE DUO LUX Demo

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What Kind Of Guy Is Into Pegging?

Axel runs The School Of Squirt along with his partner Laura, where the pair teach how to achieve female ejaculation as part of a healthy, fulfilling and exciting sex life. Axel’s interests extend beyond just amazing sex, into health, psychology and yoga. Here, exclusively for Hot Octopuss, he discusses just how great pegging can be for men in heterosexual partnerships.

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Why Can’t I Orgasm after Hysterectomy?

I’m 56. About 10 years ago I had a full hysterectomy. Since then, I get all the arousal feelings, but I can’t actually orgasm. Before the operation I achieved orgasm easily and enjoyed a healthy sex life. Now I’m just left frustrated.

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Great Sex, But No Intercourse

My wife and I, late 60s, married almost 48 years, have had no intercourse for years but do have a very active sex life in spite of that. About five years ago my wife’s vagina became so tight it was almost impossible to enter and uncomfortable for both of us.

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Penis Vibrators: A Great Sex Toy Review

We love it when people send us their sex toy reviews of the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL or PULSE DUO. Whether they’re explaining how the toy helped them orgasm when flaccid, telling us how they used it to have incredible non-penetrative sex with a partner, or even just giving us a nice new comparison for what it looks like (‘Darth Vader’s helmet, anyone?).

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Weird and Wonderful Male Sex Toys

We talk a lot about the future of sex toys, partly because we’re nerdy and curious about when our sexy robotic overlords will take over. But also because we live in exciting times for sex toys – new channels of distribution mean that great sex toy ideas aren’t limited to the big companies.

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PULSE DUO Demo

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His Orgasm Takes Forever

I’m 72. My husband of 50 years has trouble maintaining an erection. He desperately wants to orgasm, but it takes a lot of work on my part to get him there. We tried various sex toys, but nothing helps. His issues could be due to medications he's taking. Sex has become no fun. Help!

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PULSE SOLO LUX Demo

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Disability & Sex Stigma

Leandra Vane is a sexuality writer and speaker – her groundbreaking blog The Unlaced Librarian covers body identity, relationship styles, sex and disability, kink and book reviews.

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Hot Octopuss Celebrates International Day of People With Disabilities (#IDPWD)

At Hot Octopuss to celebrate International Day of People With Disabilities (#IDPWD), we are so excited to share the stories of disabled people and their journey with dating and relationships as told by them, starting with our very our Creative Director Kelly Gordon.

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Partner has Peyronie's Disease

My 60-year-old partner has Peyronie’s disease. It developed two years ago. The extensive bend caused him pain, and he was unable to masturbate or have intercourse. He became depressed.

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No Orgasm During Intercourse: Am I Deficient?

I was hoping my friend with benefits would become my boyfriend, but he told me that he’s not interested in romance because I don’t have an orgasm during intercourse. He said it just doesn’t feel right, and he needs a woman who knows how to get off.

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Celebrate International Fetish Day - Learn BDSM & Best Free Resources

Celebrate International Fetish Day 2022 on 21st Jan; learn about the BSDSM lifestyle and all the best free resources with Hot Octopuss

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Anal Sex – Here’s Absolutely Everything You Need to Know

So you’ve heard about anal play and you even got curious a bit, but people say all kinds of things about anal play. Let’s get some myths out of the way to make you more comfortable!

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Good Erections, but No Orgasm

I am 58 and enjoy sex with my wife. I take Viagra to get a good erection. For the last three weeks, I’ve had a good erection but no orgasm. After 30 minutes my body tires out and I stop.

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How Do I Meet Single Women During Covid-19?

I’m 63, and my parents, age 96 and 91, live with me. I feel especially isolated during this pandemic, having very little social contact with anyone else. I would really like to at least be able to talk with a woman who doesn’t have a partner. But how?

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Husband Has No Interest In Sex And Won’t Talk About It

My husband has no interest in sex and no interest in me physically anymore. We’re married 34 years and two years ago I found out he was looking at porn. At the time I’d had pelvic surgery and couldn’t have sex.

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What Will Define The Best Sex Toys 2016?

It used to be the case that sex toys were considered worthwhile if they got you off. A useful trick, sure, but a pretty low bar to set.

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Toys for Flaccid Penis?

I’m 68, impotent from prostate cancer for 12 years, and a widower for two. My only regular release is via masturbation. I’ve been frustrated by the lack of sex toys for men with my condition. Which of Hot Octopuss toys work while completely flaccid?

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Sex with ED after Prostate Surgery

After a 37-year relationship that was full of abuse and violence, I have an amazing new partner who is gentle and caring. He had his prostate removed due to cancer and no longer has erections. He believes he has nothing to offer me due to his ED after prostate surgery. I feel he is scared and vulnerable.

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Young Man Desires Much Older Woman

I’m only in my early 30s, but I’m sexually attracted to women 30 years older or more. I am attracted to their softer breasts, and their maturity is a huge turn-on. I tend to have better, deeper conversations with older women.

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77-Year-Old Man: Should I Marry A 30-Year-Old Woman?

I’m 77 and seeing a woman age 30. We are serious and thinking about marriage. But should I marry a 30-year-old woman? What are some things I need to consider?

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13 Things Everybody With A Clit Needs To Try At Least Once

The clitoris is an amazing creation. It’s bigger than most people think, and the only body part whose exclusive purpose is to derive pleasure. Discover ways to celebrate, build relationship with the power of the clitoris.

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‘You guys get paralysed men!’ – an ex-soldier tries PULSE

One of the best things about working at Hot Octopuss is hearing from disabled customers who’ve found PULSE enhances their sex lives. We got this email from Jon, a former US soldier and paraplegic gay guy, and we were so chuffed to read it we got his permission to share it here. Be warned, it’s not quite NSFW!

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Six Best Valentine’s Sex Positions & Toys That Lead to More Orgasms

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I’m here to suggest some sex position and toy pairings for a deliciously good time with maximum pleasure and endless orgasms.

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AMO

Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy

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Erotica Stories ‘Hands-Free Orgasm’ by F. Leonora Solomon

So we were contacted by the wonderful erotica writer F. Leonora Solomon. She met our CEO, Adam, when we exhibited at the New York Sexual Health Expo. She was so intrigued by our toy, she wondered if we could work together in some way. We obviously couldn’t turn an offer like that down!

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ATOM PLUS Demo

Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy

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Leandra Vane on Orgasm Hunting With Nerve Damage

Leandra Vane, otherwise known as The Unlaced Librarian, wrote an excellent blog for us about disability and sex stigma a couple of years ago. Now she’s about to relaunch her website, we’re delighted to have her guest posting for us again. Leandra has nerve damage in over half her body, but she still loves having orgasms.

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Unleash Your Inner Goddess with Vulva Exploration

Discover the Art of Pleasuring a Vulva with Miss Erica's Proven Techniques

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A New Focus on Pleasure as We Age

Major studies recently concluded that we are having less sex than we were a decade ago. Is it true? Read on to find out more.

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How to Use Anal Toys

It's Anal August, so here are some beginner and more advanced pointers for you all.

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Accessible Sex Toys: How Can The Sex Toy Industry Be More Inclusive?

It’s Sexual Health Week 2019, and the focus is on relationships, sex and disability. At Hot Octopuss we believe sexual expression and pleasure is a basic human right, whatever your ability.

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How To Reduce Stress – While Enjoying Yourself

It’s Stress Awareness Month, and one of the most enjoyable, natural ways to reduce stress is with sex. So we’ve pulled up some expert opinions on the subject to help us develop some guidelines on how to access the stress-relieving properties of sexual activity.

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12 unusual myths about the penis: fact or fiction?

Ready for some hard facts? Well, not to sound cocky or anything, but we’ve done the penis research so that you don’t have to!

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Sex Toys For Perimenopause

Changes to libido and sexual response are normal during perimenopause. Pleasure products can help. Nicci Talbot shares her top sex toys for perimenopause.

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Sex and Spinal Cord Injury: The Story of PULSE

We were catching up with Alix Fox’s brilliant ‘Close Encounters’ podcast recently when one story really stood out. Simon, one of Alix’s interviewees, talked about his experiences with spinal cord injury and how his injuries had affected his sex life.

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Kelly Gordon: Best Accessible Sex Toys

Kelly Gordon’s personal mission is to bust the myth that disabled people are sexually limited. After trying as many products as she can get her hands on, she reveals her favourite accessible sex toys.

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Best Men’s Sex Toy: Everyone’s Talking About…

It’s been quite a week for us at Hot Octopuss HQ – love is in the air around Valentine’s Day, so suddenly everyone’s buzzing about sex toys – and PULSE DUO in particular. Naturally we’re delighted to be recommended as one of the best men’s sex toys, and alongside the reviews there have been some great discussion pieces that help to challenge the stigma that’s often attached to men’s sex toys.

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JETT vs PULSE – Which Do I Choose?

Torn between JETT and PULSE? How can two penis toys be so very different? Here to walk you through the exciting journey of becoming a penis toy owner is guest author, M. Christian.

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Innovative sex and masturbation machines

Housing one of the world’s largest collections of sex and masturbation machines, it’s hard to believe that the Sex Machines Museum in Prague only has 3.5 stars on TripAdvisor. Maybe a few people got thrown out after getting too personal with the contraptions, and have decided to take it out on the museum’s ratings.

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Challenging the stigma of sex toys for men

Let’s face it, there are far more shocking things to find in your partner’s bedside drawer: a copy of Nigel Farage’s autobiography, perhaps, or some woefully bad love poems. Yet despite this, there is still a stigma attached to sex toys for men.

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Three is the magic number: Next generation PULSE out now!

We’ll jump straight to the headlines – PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, the latest version of our award-winning sex toy, is out now! Featuring magnetic charging, a turbo function, and much more besides. If you’ve been waiting for the right moment to try PULSE, now’s your chance to be one of the first to own the new, improved version.

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Penis Vibe Tips: ED, Nipple Play and More

Recently we published a post rounding up some top tips for using our new JETT penis vibe. One of the things we love most about a new sex toy launch is hearing all the different ways people have put our unique sex toys to use, and thanks to amazing bloggers and reviewers, there are plenty of top penis vibrator tips to help you get to grips with your new purchase.

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The Only Foreplay Secret You Need To Know

Want to become a master of foreplay? Feel like you need to brush up on – or level up – your foreplay skills? Well, while you’ll find a host of websites promising you Ten Foreplay Tips To Drive Her Wild In Bed or Six Foreplay Secrets Only Sexperts Know, we’re just here to give you the only foreplay secret that matters.

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How Often Should I Masturbate?

'How often should I masturbate?' is one of the most frequently googled questions about self-pleasure, so people are clearly concerned about it. But should they be?

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Hot Octopuss Heads To International Lingerie Show in Vegas

The Hot Octopuss team is heading to the International Lingerie Show in Las Vegas this week to showcase PULSE for the very first time.

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PULSE: The Verdict – It’s Sensational!

One of the most stressful times for any sex toy company is shortly after a product has come out, when you’re waiting for the first reviews. And we were no different when we launched PULSE III – the new, improved version of our award-winning guybrator. Would people like the upgraded version?

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Desire In The Time Of Coronavirus

Self-isolation should mean more time for sex and orgasms right? Vibrator sales have rocketed, and there are jokes about the birth rate increasing. But, asks Kate Orson, are people really experiencing more pleasure?

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How Masturbation Can Reduce Burnout

How masturbation can reduce burnout, relieve stress and leave space for personal growth

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How To Eat Pussy

Chances are if your partner has a vulva, they’d like you to put your mouth on it. Many a crime has been forgiven, and many an argument thwarted, by the power of cunnilingus. Lifehack: if you are a generous vulva-whisperer, you’ll probably receive more oral sex too!