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I Use a Vibrator, But No Success Reaching Orgasm

By Joan Price | 18 January 2022

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Joan Price

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Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She is the author of four books about sex and aging, including the award-winning Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex and her latest: Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved. Her award-winning blog has been offering senior sex news, views, and sex toy reviews since 2005. At age 76, Joan continues to talk out loud about senior sex—partnered or solo. She is the co-creator of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex”. Find Joan at https://joanprice.com.

"Currently I’m on testosterone cream. I’ve talked to my gynecologist, but outside of the cream, nothing else has been suggested."

"This is beyond disappointing and frustrating. I’ve been in a healthy relationship for 19 years. My partner wants sex daily. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated."

Joan answers:

Inability to reach orgasm when you had no trouble until recently can be a sign of a serious medical condition, such as heart disease or diabetes, or a side effect of a medication you’re taking. I’m disappointed (but, unfortunately, not surprised) that your doctor didn’t try to diagnose the problem instead of just prescribing testosterone cream.

It is common that as we age, we need more stimulation, so a stronger vibrator might help, if you haven’t tried that. But please don’t give up trying to get the right medical help. Please read these articles, too:

– “Orgasms change as you get older. But they can be richly satisfying with the right stimulation and an open mind.” My blog post for Hot Octopuss: “How Orgasms Change As You Get Older

– “It’s hard for me to reach orgasm,” women over 60 often write me. My column for Senior Planet addresses several of their concerns: “Ask Joan: Easier Orgasms

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