Gay Man in India: Am I Exploiting Lonely Men?
By Joan Price | 14 January 2022
"I am a 60-year-old man who enjoys the company of senior men over 75. Being in India where homosexuality awareness is still in its early stages, few gay men of 75+ are aware that they are gay. Others suppress themselves due to religious and social skewed teachings. Hence it remains very difficult to find a partner here."
"I tried persuading some lonely senior men into physical intimacy while giving them company. After some hesitation, they seemed to enjoy it. However, some are hesitant to acknowledge that they enjoy it, which, I suspect, is due to their mental block stemming from their wrong social or religious teachings of a lifetime."
"I don’t like to view myself as someone who exploits another man’s loneliness for my pleasures. Is there any way to know if they are actually enjoying intimacy with me or they are merely obliging me since they need my company?"
Easy answer: use your words! Have you tried having a conversation ahead of time and getting consent, preferably enthusiastic consent? I don’t know your culture well enough to suggest how to open the conversation indirectly in a way that isn’t risky, but it’s worth figuring out. Communication always beats trying to read someone else’s mind.
Homosexuality has only been legal in India since 2018, so the need to hide same-sex attraction is understandably ingrained in older men. Still, I can’t imagine that a man reaches age 75 with no awareness that he is gay. If the men you interact with are hesitant or reluctant, perhaps you’re right about their reasons, or maybe they’re uncomfortable with your approach.
It seems to me that instead of seducing men whose sexual orientation you don’t know, it would be more productive to try one of the gay or gay-friendly dating apps and—when we’re free to travel and mingle again—visiting the LGBT venues in the big cities in India.
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