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Why disclosing your sexual health status matters

Here’s how to have that conversation

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How To Be Sexually Confident With Scotty Unfamous And Madam Storm

Meet MSSS, the sexual happiness experts, learn some tips on sexual confidence, and find out about their exclusive online workshop.

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What’s In A Name? When It Comes To Sex, Sometimes Everything

Our regular guest blogger James Mycroft tells us why Juliet, undeniably a great lover, possibly wouldn’t have been such a brilliant shag.

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Who’s The World’s Fastest Wanker?

Today we’re welcoming the amazing vlogger DaveyWavey to the HotOctopuss blog. We gave him some PULSE SOLO ESSENTIALs and to really put them through their paces, he’s staged the PULSE Olympics! It’s a sprint to the finish line, as he challenges three friends to become the World’s Fastest Wanker…

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Sex And Mental Health Management

Can sex help you manage a mental health condition? Cherith Fuller explains how it works for her.

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Santa's Lap

Girl on the net is the queen of written and audio erotica and she is back again for our 2022 advent calendar! Who knew Christmas could be so sexy?

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Erotica Challenge – Jilly Boyd

Jilly Boyd is the latest to take up our ongoing erotica challenge, which aims to celebrate the fact that there are many different ways to enjoy sex, whatever one’s limitations or challenges.

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How To Live With A Micropenis

What is a micropenis and how do you live with it? Gareth May interviewed Jon, who wasn’t diagnosed until age 28, and discusses the mental health impact of late diagnosis.

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How To Have Great Sex During Perimenopause

Hormonal shifts can affect your sex life, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have great sex during perimenopause and beyond. Nicci Talbot explains that it’s a great opportunity to experiment.

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BDSM Advice: What’s up with roleplay?

Dear Zentai - What’s up with role play?

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How To BDSM – Beginner’s Guide

Shakira Scott aka Scotty Unfamous shares her tips for exploring your wild side so you can live your best kinky heaux life

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When Sex Is An Extreme Sport

Here’s another great erotic and thoughtful guest post from James Mycroft – this time about a sporting injury that’s got nothing to do with running or rock climbing…

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What Is A Sex Educator?

Excellent sex educators are so important for reducing stigma around sexuality. We look in detail at this fascinating field.

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Sex Blog Memes That Will Bring You Joy

We can say with 100% confidence that if you enjoy reading our sex toy blog, you’ll love reading some of the other fantastic sex blogs dotted around the internet.

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Delayed Ejaculation And Performance Anxiety

I am a 60-year-old man, married to my wife for 38 years. We enjoy being with each other and I have always been the horny one. I enjoy giving my wife oral sex ending in orgasm with the help of a vibrator.

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Sex On TV and Hands Free Masturbation

If you’ve been using your PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL for hands-free masturbation at the computer, taking advantage of the fact that you can use both of your hands to browse your chosen… ahem… material, then know that you’re not the only one.

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How To Stimulate The P-Spot For Awesome Prostate Orgasms

Prostate massage or anal pleasure during solo and shared play can be pleasurable for anyone, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation. Find out absolutely everything you need to know to have awesome prostate orgasms.

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BDSM Advice: What kind of kink can I do by myself?

Dear Zentai - I’m single. What kind of kink can I do by myself?

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Antidepressants and the Lost Orgasm

Andrea Hubert on masturbation and antidepressants

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National Orgasm Day: 7 Unusual Tips to Help You Hit That ‘O’

National Orgasm Day is on 31st July in many countries worldwide, and we’re sure people across the UK will be eager to join in the celebrations.

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Vulva Owners’ Masturbation Myths, Tips & Black Friday Toy Deals

Vulva owners, let's debunk some popular masturbation myths and celebrate this Black Friday with some top tips & sex toy deals.

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KURVE Kegel Party G-Spot Awareness Practice Sexercise

This sexercise is developed to help strengthen your ability to access conscious awareness of your G-Spot-and develop increased muscle tone and control over your pelvic floor muscles.

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What Is Testicular Torsion?

Adam England describes his experience with testicular torsion as a teenager, and the impact the condition had on his mental health.

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How to Celebrate Black Friday 2023 – The Ultimate Play Party Checklist

Here are our reasons why a play party can fantastically celebrate the season, how to find or host one, things to keep in mind, and everything else you need to enjoy this giving-getting all sorts of erotic presents!

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Threesome Tips – How To Hook Up With A Couple For The First Time

Cherith Fuller loves being a unicorn – and after a lot of trial and error, here are her top threesome tips if you’re looking to hook up with a couple for the first time.

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Why London Is The Sexiest City In The World

Sydney is quite seductive, and Tokyo can be tantalising, but we think London is the sexiest city in the world.

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Penis Vibrators: How To Use JETT

Penis Vibrators: some are better than others! Besides being the world’s first guybrator, JETT is known for providing relief from erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, and sheer boredom. Author M. Christian penned the definitive guide to this advanced piece of sex tech, so read on if you want to figure out once and for all how to use JETT to achieve hands-free orgasms.

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8 Cunnilingus Techniques Everyone Needs

The idea of going down on a woman for the first time, is enough to fill most of us with dread. There is an unspoken implication that, if you’re going to do it, you have to do it properly. You must drive her wild and her legs should absolutely be shaking like crazy, once you are done. Pressure indeed!

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Halloween BDSM: A How-To Guide

Halloween BDSM: let’s show this pandemic who’s boss!

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Penis Vibrator Tips: How To Use JETT

When you launch a new sex toy, there’s always an exciting (and nerve-wracking!) period of time where you wait for the reviews and customer testimonials to start coming in. JETT – our brand new penis vibrator with Treble & Bass technology (more on that later) – launched earlier this year, and we were really excited to hear what people made of it. But even with high expectations, we’ve been blown away by the reception to this unique toy.

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Why Healthcare Professionals Should Recommend Sex Toys To Patients

Samantha Evans, founder of retailer Jo Divine, discusses the medical profession’s approach to sexual dysfunction and how this needs to change.

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Zentai Q & A

Your questions about the weird and wonderful - answered

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Virtual Reality Porn: How To Watch It

At Hot Octopuss we’re fans of new technology, especially if that new technology can be paired with awesome sex toys like the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL. And nothing is more perfect for this than virtual reality porn, which puts you up close and personal with adult performers, either making it feel as if you’re in the same room or – in many cases – putting you right in the middle of the action, as it were.

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The Initiate

Read aurore is the home of erotic stories based out of Brooklyn New York. They are here to tease, to educate and to inspire and we are SO lucky that they wrote this for our virtual advent calendar

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11 Things To Do While You Have A Hands-Free Orgasm

Not to brag, but PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL is capable of giving you a hands-free orgasm.

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Ask Zentai: To Squirt Or Not To Squirt?

I’d really like to help my wife squirt. How can we make this happen? Once it happens will it happen all or most of the time?

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Masturbation For Females – Taking Ownership of Your Pleasure

In this article, Sophia Reading delivers a royal ass-whooping to the conditioning of sexual disempowerment for women and other AFAB folks. On top of that, here are some crystal clear tips on how to dive into masturbation to strengthen your connection with your body and pleasure.

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Erotica Stories: More Ways Than One

Jerusalem Mortimer‘s sexy story about a man who discovers *many* more ways than one of satisfying a lover in one night.

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Tackling modern masturbation myths

It’s easy for us to laugh at historical mistakes: the old myth that excessive masturbation would damage your vision, for instance, is one that very few people would give credence to today.

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How To Host An Adult Halloween Play Party

Halloween sex parties are becoming increasingly popular. It is a fresh take on a typical sex party, often referred to as a play party, by having a Halloween theme which typically tends to lean on BDSM but it is completely up to you.

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Best Penis Toys: Tips From Experts

Our customers and reviewers are amazing. Not only do they have excellent taste, but they regularly get in touch with us to give us extra tips and tricks for using PULSE, our award-winning, flagship dick toy.

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Can Straight Guys Like Butt Stuff?

Can straight guys like butt stuff? Of course they can! Jack Stover shares one man’s journey to a whole new hole.

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Dysorgasmia – What Causes Painful Orgasms?

Sex blogger Petra Pan talks about her experiences with dysorgasmia – painful orgasms – and offers her tips for overcoming this little-known condition.

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5 Things From Netflix’s Sex Education We Wish They’d Taught Us At School

Netflix’s funny-but-touching teen comedy show Sex Education is causing quite a stir in the UK and beyond, and the team at HO is about to go into binge-watch mode.

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ANAL SEX: GETTING STARTED

Let’s start with a disclaimer: nobody HAS to do anal sex. Or want to try it.

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Why aficionados like anal (and why you might too)

Anal sex has always had something of a negative press - often by those who haven’t yet had the pleasure. While liking sex has now been accepted for all genders, liking (or even preferring) anal always seemed to cast a shadow upon your character. Which means there’s a host of people out there who may love it - but probably already think they won’t.

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Frenulum Orgasms – The Penis’ Best Kept Secret

Frenulum Orgasms – the little-known secret tucked beneath the glans of the penis. This highly sensitive area is packed with nerves capable of unleashing out-of-this-world orgasms. What’s the catch? Penetration has nothing to do with it! Resident blogger Queen P spills the beans on this hidden gem.

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How To Find A Unicorn – Navigating Threesomes Ethically

Threesomes. Unicorns. They sound good in theory, but the risks are great. Girl On The Net gives advice on how to find your third and treat them right.

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BOTTOMS UP!

Anal positions to try for maximum pleasure

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Kinky Roleplay Anarchy

“If you’d like to give roleplay a try but you want something that lets you decide on the level of power exchange you want, and lets you play with gender however you like, today is your lucky day.” Sophia Reading breaks down kinky roleplay anarchy for folks who want a different take on this BDSM favorite.

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The Joys of Perineum Stimulation

At Hot Octopuss we’re always trying to find new ways to get you off and engineer turbo-charged orgasms. With the launch of our next-generation cock ring ATOM PLUS we’re not only providing mega-intense vibration for both partners, but we’re also giving some attention to an oft-overlooked area – the perineum.

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In Search Of Guilt Free Kink

What happens when your sexual desires don’t match those you were raised to believe were the ‘right’ ones? Sex blogger May More discusses guilt and kink – and how to get over it.

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Tech Sex Counts As ‘Real’ Sex

Guest blogger James Mycroft this month tackles the issue of ‘real sex’ versus ‘tech sex’ (i.e. using products like our toys to enhance sex life). And he explains why one isn’t any better (or realer) than the other.

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If Using A Sex Toy Counted As Cheating…

Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn’t… oh what’s the use? No matter how many people take the time to patiently explain that sex toys – being inanimate objects – aren’t the same as actual human beings you have sex with, there’ll always be a few people who worry that using a sex toy counts as cheating.

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Can’t Enjoy Sex Anymore? Reclaiming Your Sex Life

It’s not unusual for vulva-owners to go through times when they can’t enjoy sex in the way they used to. In fact, it’s so common in older women that a major study on the topic was recently published in medical journal Menopause.

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Sexy Tricks And Treats For Halloween

Perhaps one of the nicest things about the internet (yes, we know, there are some pretty horrible things about it too) is that celebrations and festivals get to spread further across the world. In the UK, we’ve traditionally been quite bad at Halloween: cheap costumes and a bit of fake blood on one night each year doesn’t exactly make for a scary evening.

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Erotica: Edging With A Cock Ring

Regular guest blogger James Mycroft has written some of our most popular blog posts this year. This month he tackles erotica, describing the experience of using our ATOM cock ring… plus another one of our toys (can you work out which one?)… in a very sexy edging scenario.

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Sex Communication 101

How do you feel about sex communication in your relationship? From open and encouraging, to teasing or shutting down, sex communication can take many forms. Here are our top tips on how to use communication to get the connection and sex life of your dreams.

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Hands-Free Couples Masturbator: Best Sex Positions

So you’ve picked up an amazing PULSE DUO: suddenly all those weird and wonderful *Cosmo* sex positions are looking more interesting, with the added benefit of vibration for both of you.

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How To Find The Most Unique Sex Toys

It’s natural that humans want to chase variety, in sex as well as elsewhere in life. Same-old-same-old masturbation is pleasurable, of course: even a bad wank is still nice.

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How To Fetlife

FetLife is the greatest free resource on BDSM. Equal parts social network, learning platform, and dating service, Fet has created a culture of openness and celebration around the Lifestyle.

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Learning How To Deepthroat

Deepthroating . . . should you be scared, excited, or calling in reinforcements? Our expert consultant assured us that with proper communication and preparation, most people can attain proficiency at this advanced fellatio technique – and even enjoy themselves! We approached sexfluencer Shakira Scott on the topic of deepthroating and this is what she had to say.

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Masturbation As Self-Care

Little known fact: sometimes folks masturbate not just because it feels good, but because it’s good for you too! In this article guest author Sherrylsworld breaks down the importance of masturbation for self-care and gives tips for how you can start a smoking hot mindfulness practice today!

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Erotica Stories: Sex & Disability For #MasturbationMonday

As we’ve written in a previous post about the best writers on sex and disability, we’re big fans of erotica publisher Sexy Little Pages and their latest anthology, Silence Is Golden.

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How To Introduce Couples Sex Toys

Not everyone’s familiar with the idea of couples sex toys, so if you want to introduce them to your partner you might have to do a bit of explanation before you dive in.

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Friends With Benefits: Is It Right For You?

Friends With Benefits – is that even a real thing? Guest writer Wolfe gives us the nitty-gritty on the what, why, and how of this relationship style. Read on for advice on how to successfully navigate the world of Friends With Benefits.

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5 Of The Best Cock Ring Sex Tips

Got a cock ring? Want to find out how to make the most of it? We’ve got you covered, with this handy guide to the best cock ring sex tips.

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Afterplay: Best Things to Do After Sex?

You can barely move for foreplay tips on the internet: advice on how to get things started, tips for turning your partner on via sexting and dirty talk, all that stuff.

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Aural Sex: 10 Erotic Podcasts To Listen To In Lockdown

Erotic podcasts are booming, and they’re particularly useful if you’re struggling for privacy. Just chuck on those headphones and nobody around you is any the wiser. Here are our picks for the best erotic podcasts.

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Masturbation: Scenes We’d Like To See

It might sound weird to call for more masturbation on TV. After all, we’re already treated to some pretty excellent sexy TV shows, and if we’re after anything more explicit then there’s a whole world of ethical porn to explore.

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Penis Sensitivity 101

Too sensitive? Not sensitive enough? There’s a lot of misinformation out there that sets impossible standards for penis owners. Here are some down-to-earth suggestions by author M. Christian on how to manage your penis sensitivity and get on with having the best sex of your life.

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Erotica: Threesomes Are Not Like Porn

Here’s a touch of erotica pulled from the author’s personal life experience. It’s been rewritten from the perspective of a penis owner. As a reader, how do you think they did?

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What anal toy is best for me

Imagine the disappointment; you recently discovered you enjoy anal sex, and now you’re starting to excitedly explore the world of anal sex toys. Then, through no fault of your own, you pick a toy so far beyond your sphincter’s current capability that it puts you off anal for life.

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Which Sex World Record Could You Beat?

Last weekend the Hot Octopuss team chatted about sex world records. Are there any categories in which people who use PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL compete? Could they potentially beat the competition?

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Leandra Vane – Be Proud of your Phone Porn

Should you be proud of your phone porn? Leandra Vane argues the line between ‘porn’ and other media is much blurrier than you think.

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Solo & Couple Players – Here is Why You Must Buy a Sex Toy This Valentine's Day

February 14th - a day full of oh-so-very romantic gestures to demonstrate how much you love that special someone in your life. Here is Why You Must Buy a Sex Toy This Valentine's Day.

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It’s International Masturbation Day!

It’s International Masturbation Day and author Scotty Unfamous wants you to heaux it up. Ever tried humping a pillow or tickling a taint? This article will boredom-proof your solo sex practice as you celebrate an important tradition of the sex-positivity movement.

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Why Some Orgasms Are Out Of This World And Others Are Just So-So

Why is it that orgasms are like snowflakes – no two seem exactly the same? Kate Orson asks the experts.

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3 Unusual Mutual Masturbation Tips

May is Masturbation Month! Our favourite month of the year. It means not only are we gifted with spring sunshine (well, we are at HO HQ in London, at any rate) we’re also gifted with an excuse to talk about our favourite topic – wanking – for over four weeks! To celebrate we wanted to share with you some of our top mutual masturbation tips.

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Erotica Stories: Homologous

James Mycroft has written a few thoughtful, sexy guest posts for us over the past few months, on topics like submission and depression and sex as an extreme sport, but this is the first time he’s written full-on erotica.

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Secrets Of A Hands-Free Orgasm

Hands-Free Orgasm. It sounds like the ultimate masturbation holy grail. Being able to kick back, browse porn or read erotica. Surely if it were easy, we’d all be doing it?

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Sometimes Submitting In Bed Helps My Depression

Submitting in bed – There are many ways to manage depression. Here our newest guest blogger, James Mycroft, talks about one way that works for him.

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BDSM Community – How To Get Involved

If you want to get involved with the BDSM community, welcome! And here’s how to get started.

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Masturbation Habits: Let’s Break The Taboo

Imagine if the overwhelming majority of people in the world enjoyed knitting. Let’s say 95% of men and 81% of women said they’d knitted during their lifetime, and most of them did it regularly. On average people knitted somewhere between 8 and 15 times each month. You’d expect us all to be talking about it quite a lot, right?

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Coffee & Kink – Sex Blogging Saved My Soul

Being a member of a gender or sexual minority can be a lonely place. Most of us are raised with the belief, implicit or explicit, that matters of sexuality are things we do not talk about.

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How To Masturbate In Lockdown

Personal space has taken on a whole new importance in the time of coronavirus. If you’re finding it helpful but tricky to masturbate in lockdown, here are some strategies.

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Orgasm Health Benefits: Nine Unexpected Reasons To Get Your ‘Vitamin O’

We all know orgasms are fun. But did you know they’re scientifically proven to be wholesome too?

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Games To Play With Couples Sex Toys

It’s easy to fall into the trap of discussing sex toys in the kind of flowery language you’d use in a romance novel. Particularly when you’re talking about couples’ sex toys – they’re ‘sensual’ things, that you use to ‘seduce’ your partner.

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5 Fun Facts You Didn’t Know About Porn

Fun. Ethical. Good for you! Could it be... porn? Resident blogger Queen P dishes up all the reasons you – and your partners – oughta feel great about enjoying erotic entertainment.

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BDSM & Kink

The Hot Octopuss BDSM Hub promotes BDSM as a healthy form of sexual expression. View our range of premium leather bondage gear and accessories.

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Best Adult Halloween Celebration Ideas

Want to know why you need to celebrate Halloween this year and need tips on how to enjoy this Halloween as an adult? You are in the right place!

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Have Amazing Sex Without Penetration

What counts as sex? From the first kids who asked this question in the playground, to the sheepish couple trying to negotiate their way out of a train toilet without getting arrested, we’ve long been worried about a question that doesn’t really need an answer.

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BDSM Power Exchange

True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...

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Childless Women & Sex: Unveiling Sexual Intimacy Realities

Delve into the multifaceted world of childlessness and its profound influence on sexual intimacy. Explore the emotional complexities, societal perceptions, and personal journeys that shape the sex lives of childless individuals. Gain a deeper understanding of desire, self-perception, and the unique challenges faced by those who embrace a childless path.

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Top Anal Masturbation Tips

May is Masturbation Month! Which, for wankers like us, means we have an excuse to share with you some top anal masturbation tips. If you want to spend time exploring your body and experimenting with new ways to wank, this blog post is for you!

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BDSM Communication: Older Person’s Guide to BDSM, Part 2

Older person’s guide to BDSM, Part 2 – Author M. Christian advises on communication and bondage for seniors exploring BDSM.

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Butt Plugs For Beginners

Butt plugs can be a non-intimidating – and *very* fulfilling – component of anal play. In this article, author Queen P delivers her tried-and-true recommendations for selecting the right plug and lube, as well as tips for getting to know your new best friend.

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PULSE DUO LUX – My First Experience With This Couple’s Toy

New toys can be intimidating, especially when exploring them with a partner. Fresh from the research lab is guest author, Sophia Reading. This article is packed with advice and experience to support your exploration into the wonderful world of couple’s sex toys.

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Good Sex Tool: Touch Plus Imagery Sexercise

Neuroscientists have a saying that neurons (brain cells) that fire (get active) together wire (develop more connections) together. What that means is that the more we use our minds to make connections between pleasurable sensations and experiences, the more intense and pleasurable our erotic sensations can become.

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Mutual Masturbation Tips For Couples

Ever thought about masturbating with your partner? While at first the idea can be surprising, couples often find that partnered masturbation comes quite naturally and adds an incredible dimension of hotness and closeness in the bedroom. Guest author M. Christian gives his top tips for couples exploring mutual masturbation.

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Who Do I Believe: My Husband or His Penis?

My husband says he still desires me sexually, but his penis says otherwise. It takes a lot of oral sex to get him aroused, and even then, his erection doesn’t last long enough for sex. It doesn’t seem worth the trouble to try to get him worked up enough for something to happen, so I usually pretend that I don’t notice his hints that he’s in the mood.

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All the Different Ways I Tried To Come on SSRIs

In her first guest post for us, comedian Andrea Hubert described losing her orgasm when she went on antidepressants. Now she takes us through the gory details of how she got it back. Warning: perhaps best not to try some of these methods at home (but, er, definitely don’t do them in public either).

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Male Vibrator Tips – Bringing A Male Vibrator Into Your Bedroom

Introducing your girlfriend or wife to your favourite sex toy can be a little tricky. Some women may feel threatened by the presence of a male vibrator in your bedroom. Others might not know how to use one, or worry that they’re not able to compete with the toy when it comes to giving you the most amazing orgasms. Well, we’re here to help.

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Vaginismus: Interview With An Expert

Vaginismus is a condition that causes involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles (or ‘kegels’), and it can make any kind of vaginal penetration difficult and painful.

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What is a Cervical Orgasm?

The cervix is a lesser known pleasure point, often forgotten in the debate about whether the G-spot exists or not. Kate Orson tells you why it’s worth investigating the cervical orgasm.

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How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner: Part 2

How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner Pt. II: back by popular demand! Here’s Queen P’s definitive shopping guide, aka “How To Buy Your Girlfriend A Sex Toy She Actually Wants For Valentine’s Day.”

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Why Your Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm – And What To Do About It

Ever wonder if your lady love is faking her orgasm? In this article guest writer, James Mycroft shines some light on the orgasm gap and what you can do in the bedroom to make her feel like the luckiest woman alive.

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All tied up in knots?

Discover the captivating world of Shibari bondage with this beginner's guide. Whether you're curious about tying someone up, being tied up yourself, or simply here for engaging conversation, delve into the art and practice of Shibari. Learn what Shibari is, its origins, and its role in rope bondage. Explore the diverse reasons why people enjoy Shibari, from exploring desires to sensory experiences.

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Foot Worship

Author M. Christian breaks down one of the most popular fetishes: foot worship. From boots to heels to bare feet, and from pedicures to BDSM scenes, this article covers it all. Want tips on how to tell your partner? You’ll find those in here too.

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Edging With JETT

Edging with JETT – learn this advanced method of using penis vibrators to blow your orgasms right out of the water. Edging is a wild way to build intensity and overcome both premature and delayed ejaculation while having the strongest orgasms of your life. Authored by guest writer, M. Christian.

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Kink Scenes – Top 3 Beginner Friendly Scenes

True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...

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Hot Orgasm Tips For Guys

For most guys the way you orgasm, as well as the ease or strength of it, can change significantly over the years. At nineteen you may have been able to have an orgasm so powerful you punched holes in the drywall, but as you age there are lots of things that can affect the quantity and intensity of your orgasms.

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Getting Started With BDSM: Older Person’s Guide

Author M. Christian delves into how BDSM can become an enjoyable part of anyone’s sexual activities, no matter their age or experience.

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Anal Sex For Beginners

For the newly initiated, anal sex can be just as scary as it is seductive. With the proper knowledge and preparation, anal sex can be approached with confidence and result in unbelievable pleasure for all parties involved. In this article, Queen P delivers a step-by-step guide to help newbies grow from nervous shy-babies into full-fledged booty queens.

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5 Things You Didn’t Know About Masturbation

Flicking the bean. Busting a nut. Think you know everything about masturbation? Put your knowledge to the test with these fun and surprising findings by resident blogger, Queen P.

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Sex Robots: The Weird, Wonderful and WTF

You surely can’t have missed the recent news that the world’s first commercial sex robot is now on the market. The Guardian reported thoroughly on Harmony – a placid, realistic-looking humanoid who apparently can do more than your average robot.

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Unusual Masturbation Tips: Do Try This At Home

There are plenty of magazine columnists ready to offer you sex tips, from the sublime to the utterly ridiculous, like Cosmo’s infamous ‘put a doughnut on his penis then eat it off’ advice. There aren’t as many willing to offer unusual masturbation tips – especially if you’ve got a dick.

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Mental Health Benefits Of Masturbation

When it comes to mental health, some wellbeing practices are more enjoyable than others. Let’s take a look at one of our favourites: masturbation. Solo sex can be an exciting and pleasurable way to boost your brain and elevate your mood. Go on, have a wank. It’s good for you!

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BDSM Troubleshooting – How To Be A Good Dom

Let’s be real: if you’re experimenting with BDSM, you’re going to run into problems. This is a sign that you’re learning and growing! The good news is that you’re not alone. In all likelihood, what you’re going through has been experienced by others (who’ve lived to tell the tale!) Below are common issues that kinksters have historically run into... and the ways in which they kicked those issues’ asses.

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Male Sex Toys: The BDSM Possibilities

When we say ‘BDSM sex toys’, most people’s first thoughts are of whips and chains. Bondage restraints, floggers, canes: anything that’s used to cause sexy pain or hold your submissive in position.

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Black Friday Male Sex Toys for Hands Free Orgasms & Ejaculate Like A Pro

Hands-on masturbation is overrated. So, if you want to experience a cross-eyeing, hands-free ejaculation, read on. It’s time to go pro and cum like never before with the handy hands-free ejaculation toys and techniques we’ll be sharing below.

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Surprising Facts About The Penis

It’s time we give the finger to the limiting – and outdated – beliefs about the penis. Here are the must-know facts for every penis owner who wants to level up their confidence and sex life. Article by guest writer, M. Christian.

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Have You Considered These Prostate Cancer Sex Aids?

When we talk about sex after prostate cancer, a lot of the discussion is focused on the physical things: whether you can get or maintain an erection, or changes in sensation or ejaculation. So discussing prostate cancer sex aids, there’s a temptation to focus purely on the physical sensation – on toys like PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, which men can use to ejaculate even when flaccid.

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How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner

Vibrators, cock rings, bondage cuffs, oh my! The decision to buy a sex toy for a partner can be thrilling... and nerve wracking. In this article, Queen P gives some pro tips on how to gift your partner a sex toy that they’ll use and love.

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How To Use Anal Toys

It’s Anal August and if you don’t know what that means, well we’re here to tell you! Anal August is a month dedicated to exploring the universal orifice that is the anus! Whether you’re a newbie to this precious little cavity or you’ve been putting god-knows-what up your butt since day one, we have some hot tips on how to use anal toys from our guest writer Queen P!

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7 Moves To Up Your Blowjob Game

If you’re dating a penis-owner, chances are, they want a blow job. But what if you don’t like performing oral sex or you just don’t know what to do? Here are field-tested tips for your inspiration and experimentation. Article by resident author, Queen P.

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Cock Cameras, Sexy Selfies, and Other DIY Porn

Last weekend saw the return of the ETO Show – an event run by the UK sex industry’s ETO Magazine, where sex toy inventors, lube wizards and other adult industry folks gathered to show off their wares.

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Sex For Anxiety And Depression

While your doctor might not exactly prescribe sex as a treatment for anxiety and depression... we think it’s great! Plenty of studies demonstrate the mental and emotional benefits of sexual activity. Guest writer Sherrylsworld breaks it down with actionable tips that you can try, well, right now if you want to!

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Death Grip Masturbation And Other Search Stories

If you’ve never delved into Google Analytics for a sex website before, then you’ve not lived. Somewhere deep in the console which tells us boring yet important things (how many people read this blog, where people tend to come from to buy our awesome sex toys, etcetera) there is info that tells a much more interesting story.

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What Is Delayed Ejaculation?

You’ve probably heard of premature ejaculation – whether it’s creams and condoms designed to numb the penis to hold back orgasm, or simply stories of occasions when sex has ended all-too-quickly. But what about delayed ejaculation? When you struggle to orgasm – during sex or masturbation – and find you’re exhausted long before you reach the desired climax?

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Masturbation Techniques: Breaking The ‘Death Grip’

Ever heard of the ‘death grip’, especially in relation to masturbation? It’s a term coined by sex advice columnist Dan Savage in his column Savage Love, and it refers to the method where – to put it bluntly – you squeeze your dick as hard as possible to try and maximise the sensations.

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Impact Play And Power Exchange: Older Person’s Guide To BDSM Part 3

Impact Play and Power Exchange: In part three of his Senior BDSM series, author M. Christian advises on the risks and pleasures of impact play, role-play, and power exchange.

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How To Enhance Your Orgasm Zones

By adding simultaneous stimulation to more genital regions to the mix, a wider area of the brain’s genital sensation center is activated, creating more intense sensations as they blend and combine, enhancing our sexual experience and increasing our orgasmic potential.

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Zentai Bio

Zentai is an agender, submissive switch who specializes in extreme play. This is their biography. Say hello and ask a question.

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Using Hands-Free Sex Toys For Pegging

According to Google Trends, there’s been a threefold increase in searches for ‘pegging’ in the last few years – and interest in pegging shows no sign of slowing down. Perhaps partly because people are becoming more open about exploring their kinks, and partly thanks to an increase in pop culture references to pegging – like that one hot scene in Deadpool.

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2021 Sex Positive Manifest-heaux

Calling all self-proclaimed sluts and sex positivists! Let’s make 2021 our heaux-iest year yet. Author Shakira Scott pens an inspiring Manifest-heaux for those of us who aspire to slut it up in the year ahead. (Pro tip: You’ll probably want a pen, paper, and a bottle of bubbly handy.)

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Ask Zentai: How do I come out as a chastity bottom?

How do I make known my status as a submissive omega chastity bottom? I love being the last on the list with a tiny nubbed dicklet. But how do I accept myself enough to reveal my truth in public?

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Rimming, Rim Jobs, Eating Ass: You Got This!

Your Heaux Fairy Godmother Scotty Unfamous returns with a rimming field guide unlike any other. If ever you had a question about the *proper* way to lick a booty hole, you’ll find the answer here.

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BDSM Problems – When Things Don’t Go As Planned

Chances are if you’ve tried something new, whether in the dungeon or the bedroom, you’re no stranger to the above statements. In all reality, new scenes rarely go as planned. Here are some tips for navigating BDSM problems.

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Boring Sex Begone!

Our newest writer makes a splash with this hard-hitting article on boring sex. Written with long term relationships in mind, this article delivers advice and concrete steps that you can take to start having a better sex life . . . tonight! Behold, guest author Sophia Reading’s take on banishing boring sex for good.

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Sex With Vaginismus (When You Don’t Even Know You Have It)

Sex blogger Petra Pan on undiagnosed vaginismus and the impact on your sex life.

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How To Get Started With Kink

Whether you’ve had kinky fantasies as far back as you can remember or you just want to try something new, everyone’s got to start somewhere when it comes to exploring their darker desires. But where? We asked some committed kinksters how they made their BDSM debuts. Also see our recommended resources at the end.

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How Soon After Giving Birth Can I Have Sex?

There are few events that have as transformative an effect on your body as giving birth, and yet it’s a occurrence that’s not just commonplace in society but expected of most with a womb and vagina

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Best Sex Life: How To Have Messy, Cathartic, Soul-Cleansing Sex On The Regular

Are you having the best sex of your life? Spoiler: the answer’s probably No. In this article, our resident blogger Jam shows you exactly how to vanquish any blockages and start having your best sex life today.

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Being Single: How To Kick Ass At Being Single

Being single: while we’re not going to pretend like it’s easy – especially during lockdown – it is possible for singledom to be a time of great value. Resident blogger Queen P offers some friendly guidance on how to get the most out of flying solo.

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Prostate Stimulation For Newbies

Prostate stimulation can provide loads of pleasure for men and other AMAB folx. This hot button offers a satisfying solution for those with erectile dysfunction and for penis owners determined to crack the nut of multiple orgasms. Check out this article by Queen P for beginner-friendly tips and tricks that will set you up for butt stuff bliss.

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Ask Zentai: Prostate Stimulation & KURVE

KURVE sounds like it could be an interesting prostate massager/p-spot stimulator for guys in the same way the tip “smooshes” out flat. I’m wondering if it had the reach/length so-to-speak to be able to do that where the average guy’s prostate is a few inches inside their bum…

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How To Talk Dirty (Even If You’re Nerdy)

Dirty talk can crank up the heat in the bedroom – well, as long as you can get past the awkward part. Guest writer Sophia Reading cooked up a beginner’s guide to dirty talk, especially for grown-up geeks. Go on, you naughty wizard – talk nerdy to me.

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Chronic Pain And Sex – Solutions For A Blissful Love Life

Chronic pain and sex? No need to despair! While living with chronic pain is no cakewalk, it doesn’t have to be the end of your sex life. With the right tools, support, and mindset, one can discover creative solutions and breathe new life into the bedroom.

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Secretary Movie Review

Long before 50 Shades of Grey there was Secretary, the 2002 film based on a short story written by Mary Gaitskill in 1988. And yes, the main character’s name is Mr. Grey. Nineteen years and a lifetime of sexcapades after my first viewing, I rewatched the film. My objective: to analyze it from a grown-ass kinky adult perspective. Did the second viewing of this movie make my inner sadist facepalm with disappointment or inspire me to dig out the toy box with glee? Here are my thoughts on the infamous BDSM film, Secretary.

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How To Clean Your Sex Toys

A survey by adult superstore Adam & Eve has revealed that only 57 per cent of men clean their sex toys every time they use them, and more than a third never clean their sex toys at all. The figures for those identifying as female are better, but still not ideal: 70 per cent clean their toys after every use, but 19 per cent take the ‘come as you are’ approach.

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Halloween’s Top Sex Scenes In Horror Movies

There’s a famous psychological experiment which explored the link between fear and sexual arousal. A female researcher stood on two different bridges – one a scary, wobbly suspension bridge and the other a much more solid bridge, which wouldn’t induce fear responses when people walked across.

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5 Tips For When You’re Too Tired for Sex

Xennials have a running joke that we’re always tired. Our exhaustion is driven by the fact that we feel old, we’re working too many hours, and “adulting” is harder than we thought it would be. This constant low-grade tiredness stops us from doing what we want to do. Like have sex with our gorgeous partners.

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World BDSM Day – History And Short-Notice Ways To Celebrate

We just found out it’s World BDSM Day. Aside from self-flagellating because we didn’t know it existed until now, we’ve also been investigating where the day came from and thinking about ways to celebrate at short notice. So here are our findings:

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Worst DIY Sex Toy Fails

Let’s face it, the words ‘DIY’ and ‘sex toy’ go together about as well as ‘vodka’ and ‘snowboarding.’ The two should never mix, and you can guarantee that if they do someone’s going to get seriously hurt. But that doesn’t stop some people from pressing on regardless.

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What Kind Of Guy Is Into Pegging?

Axel runs The School Of Squirt along with his partner Laura, where the pair teach how to achieve female ejaculation as part of a healthy, fulfilling and exciting sex life. Axel’s interests extend beyond just amazing sex, into health, psychology and yoga. Here, exclusively for Hot Octopuss, he discusses just how great pegging can be for men in heterosexual partnerships.

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Celebrate International Fetish Day - Learn BDSM & Best Free Resources

Celebrate International Fetish Day 2022 on 21st Jan; learn about the BSDSM lifestyle and all the best free resources with Hot Octopuss

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Anal Sex – Here’s Absolutely Everything You Need to Know

So you’ve heard about anal play and you even got curious a bit, but people say all kinds of things about anal play. Let’s get some myths out of the way to make you more comfortable!

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Erotica Stories ‘Hands-Free Orgasm’ by F. Leonora Solomon

So we were contacted by the wonderful erotica writer F. Leonora Solomon. She met our CEO, Adam, when we exhibited at the New York Sexual Health Expo. She was so intrigued by our toy, she wondered if we could work together in some way. We obviously couldn’t turn an offer like that down!

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How to Use Anal Toys

It's Anal August, so here are some beginner and more advanced pointers for you all.

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How To Reduce Stress – While Enjoying Yourself

It’s Stress Awareness Month, and one of the most enjoyable, natural ways to reduce stress is with sex. So we’ve pulled up some expert opinions on the subject to help us develop some guidelines on how to access the stress-relieving properties of sexual activity.

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Six Best Valentine’s Sex Positions & Toys That Lead to More Orgasms

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I’m here to suggest some sex position and toy pairings for a deliciously good time with maximum pleasure and endless orgasms.

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Unleash Your Inner Goddess with Vulva Exploration

Discover the Art of Pleasuring a Vulva with Miss Erica's Proven Techniques

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12 unusual myths about the penis: fact or fiction?

Ready for some hard facts? Well, not to sound cocky or anything, but we’ve done the penis research so that you don’t have to!

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13 Things Everybody With A Clit Needs To Try At Least Once

The clitoris is an amazing creation. It’s bigger than most people think, and the only body part whose exclusive purpose is to derive pleasure. Discover ways to celebrate, build relationship with the power of the clitoris.

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Innovative sex and masturbation machines

Housing one of the world’s largest collections of sex and masturbation machines, it’s hard to believe that the Sex Machines Museum in Prague only has 3.5 stars on TripAdvisor. Maybe a few people got thrown out after getting too personal with the contraptions, and have decided to take it out on the museum’s ratings.

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Desire In The Time Of Coronavirus

Self-isolation should mean more time for sex and orgasms right? Vibrator sales have rocketed, and there are jokes about the birth rate increasing. But, asks Kate Orson, are people really experiencing more pleasure?

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How To Eat Pussy

Chances are if your partner has a vulva, they’d like you to put your mouth on it. Many a crime has been forgiven, and many an argument thwarted, by the power of cunnilingus. Lifehack: if you are a generous vulva-whisperer, you’ll probably receive more oral sex too!

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How Sex Tech Can Help Us Deal With Social Isolation

Author M.Christian on how sex tech like VR porn and teledildonics can help us deal with social isolation and offer not just a distraction from stress but a unique opportunity for sexual exploration.

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How To Get More Blowjobs

You get a BJ! And YOU get a BJ! And you ALL get BJs! Guest writer – and gold star long-term relationship holder – Sophia Reading gives deep insight into how you can get more blowjobs from your beloved.

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How Masturbation Can Reduce Burnout

How masturbation can reduce burnout, relieve stress and leave space for personal growth

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How Often Should I Masturbate?

'How often should I masturbate?' is one of the most frequently googled questions about self-pleasure, so people are clearly concerned about it. But should they be?

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The Benefits Of Polyamory

Polyamory: is it a godsend or a ticking time bomb? Author Lucas Jackman gives a no-nonsense approach to evaluate the pros and cons of non-monogamous lifestyles. Read on to find out if polyamory might be a good option for you.

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Christmas Gifts For the BDSM Fan in Your Life

Next up in our ‘Christmas gift guide’ series we’re dealing with gifts for BDSM fans. The first in the series tackled Christmas gifts for the porn lover in your life – whether it’s a gift subscription for him to use on his favourite site or a pair of wireless headphones as a gift for her so she can watch her favourite films without disturbing the neighbours.

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Everything Wrong With That ‘Men Try Sex Toys’ Video

One of the perks of working for Hot Octopuss is that you get to see all the latest gossip and chat about sex toys. Every day we get to see the latest tweets, videos and news stories about the latest gadgets and gizmos for your dick, and as a result we get to be ahead of the penis-pleasure curve. So to speak.