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How To Get More Blowjobs


You get a BJ! And YOU get a BJ! And you ALL get BJs! Guest writer – and gold star long-term relationship holder – Sophia Reading gives deep insight into how you can get more blowjobs from yo...



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8 Cunnilingus Techniques Everyone Needs...


The idea of going down on a woman for the first time, is enough to fill most of us with dread. There...



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How To Eat Pussy


Chances are if your partner has a vulva, they’d like you to put your mouth on it. Many a crime has been forgiven, and many an argument thwarted, by the power of cunnilingus. Lifehack: if you...



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Hands-Free Couples Masturbator: Best Sex Positions...


So you’ve picked up an amazing PULSE DUO: suddenly all those weird and wonderful *Cosmo* sex positio...



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Learning How To Deepthroat


Deepthroating . . . should you be scared, excited, or calling in reinforcements? Our expert consultant assured us that with proper communication and preparation, most people can attain profi...



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5 Of The Best Cock Ring Sex Tips


Got a cock ring? Want to find out how to make the most of it? We’ve got you covered, with this handy guide to the best cock ring sex tips....



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How To Introduce Couples Sex Toys


Not everyone’s familiar with the idea of couples sex toys, so if you want to introduce them to your partner you might have to do a bit of explanation before you dive in....



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Can’t Enjoy Sex Anymore? Reclaiming Your Sex Life...


It’s not unusual for vulva-owners to go through times when they can’t enjoy sex in the way they used...



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Games To Play With Couples Sex Toys


It’s easy to fall into the trap of discussing sex toys in the kind of flowery language you’d use in a romance novel. Particularly when you’re talking about couples’ sex toys – they’re ‘sensu...



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Mutual Masturbation Tips For Couples


Ever thought about masturbating with your partner? While at first the idea can be surprising, couples often find that partnered masturbation comes quite naturally and adds an incredible dime...



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PULSE DUO LUX – My First Experience With This Couple’s Toy...


New toys can be intimidating, especially when exploring them...



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Have Amazing Sex Without Penetration


What counts as sex? From the first kids who asked this question in the playground, to the sheepish couple trying to negotiate their way out of a train toilet without getting arrested, we’ve ...



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Why Your Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm – And What To Do About It...


Ever wonder if your lady love is faking her orgasm? In this ...



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How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner: Part 2...


How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner Pt. II: back by popular demand! Here’s Queen P’s definitive sh...



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Male Vibrator Tips – Bringing A Male Vibrator Into Your Bedroom...


Introducing your girlfriend or wife to your favourite sex to...



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How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner


Vibrators, cock rings, bondage cuffs, oh my! The decision to buy a sex toy for a partner can be thrilling... and nerve wracking. In this article, Queen P gives some pro tips on how to gift y...



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5 Tips For When You’re Too Tired for Sex...


Xennials have a running joke that we’re always tired. Our exhaustion is driven by the fact that we f...



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Boring Sex Begone!


Our newest writer makes a splash with this hard-hitting article on boring sex. Written with long term relationships in mind, this article delivers advice and concrete steps that you can take...



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Solo & Couple Players – Here is Why You Must Buy a Sex Toy This V...


February 14th - a day full of oh-so-very romantic gestures t...



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Six Best Valentine’s Sex Positions & Toys That Lead to More Orgas...


With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I’m here to sug...



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Threesome Tips – How To Hook Up With A Couple For The First Time...


Cherith Fuller loves being a unicorn – and after a lot of tr...



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Best Penis Toys: Tips From Experts


Our customers and reviewers are amazing. Not only do they have excellent taste, but they regularly get in touch with us to give us extra tips and tricks for using PULSE, our award-winning, f...



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Virtual Reality Porn: How To Watch It


At Hot Octopuss we’re fans of new technology, especially if that new technology can be paired with awesome sex toys like the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL. And nothing is more perfect for this than v...



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How To Find A Unicorn – Navigating Threesomes Ethically...


Threesomes. Unicorns. They sound good in theory, but the risks are great. Girl On The Net gives advi...



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How To Host An Adult Halloween Play Party...


Halloween sex parties are becoming increasingly popular. It is a fresh take on a typical sex party, ...



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Tech Sex Counts As ‘Real’ Sex


Guest blogger James Mycroft this month tackles the issue of ‘real sex’ versus ‘tech sex’ (i.e. using products like our toys to enhance sex life). And he explains why one isn’t any better (or...



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Friends With Benefits: Is It Right For You?...


Friends With Benefits – is that even a real thing? Guest writer Wolfe gives us the nitty-gritty on t...



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The Benefits Of Polyamory


Polyamory: is it a godsend or a ticking time bomb? Author Lucas Jackman gives a no-nonsense approach to evaluate the pros and cons of non-monogamous lifestyles. Read on to find out if polyam...



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Hot Orgasm Tips For Guys


For most guys the way you orgasm, as well as the ease or strength of it, can change significantly over the years. At nineteen you may have been able to have an orgasm so powerful you punched...



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7 Moves To Up Your Blowjob Game


If you’re dating a penis-owner, chances are, they want a blow job. But what if you don’t like performing oral sex or you just don’t know what to do? Here are field-tested tips for your inspi...



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How To Talk Dirty (Even If You’re Nerdy)...


Dirty talk can crank up the heat in the bedroom – well, as long as you can get past the awkward part...



How to Use Anal Toys


It's Anal August, so here are some beginner and more advanced pointers for you all....



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How To Stimulate The P-Spot For Awesome Prostate Orgasms ...


Prostate massage or anal pleasure during solo and shared play can be pleasurable for anyone, regardl...



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Can Straight Guys Like Butt Stuff?


Can straight guys like butt stuff? Of course they can! Jack Stover shares one man’s journey to a whole new hole....



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Butt Plugs For Beginners


Butt plugs can be a non-intimidating – and *very* fulfilling – component of anal play. In this article, author Queen P delivers her tried-and-true recommendations for selecting the right plu...



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Top Anal Masturbation Tips


May is Masturbation Month! Which, for wankers like us, means we have an excuse to share with you some top anal masturbation tips. If you want to spend time exploring your body and experiment...



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Using Hands-Free Sex Toys For Pegging


According to Google Trends, there’s been a threefold increase in searches for ‘pegging’ in the last few years – and interest in pegging shows no sign of slowing down. Perhaps partly because ...



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Anal Sex For Beginners


For the newly initiated, anal sex can be just as scary as it is seductive. With the proper knowledge and preparation, anal sex can be approached with confidence and result in unbelievable pl...



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Prostate Stimulation For Newbies


Prostate stimulation can provide loads of pleasure for men and other AMAB folx. This hot button offers a satisfying solution for those with erectile dysfunction and for penis owners determin...



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Rimming, Rim Jobs, Eating Ass: You Got This!...


Your Heaux Fairy Godmother Scotty Unfamous returns with a rimming field guide unlike any other. If e...



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Anal Sex – Here’s Absolutely Everything You Need to Know...


So you’ve heard about anal play and you even got curious a bit, but people say all kinds of things a...



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Delayed Ejaculation And Performance Anxiety...


I am a 60-year-old man, married to my wife for 38 years. We enjoy being with each other and I have a...



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Antidepressants and the Lost Orgasm


Andrea Hubert on masturbation and antidepressants...



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How To Have Great Sex During Perimenopause...


Hormonal shifts can affect your sex life, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have great sex during peri...



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What Is A Sex Educator?


Excellent sex educators are so important for reducing stigma around sexuality. We look in detail at this fascinating field....



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How To Live With A Micropenis


What is a micropenis and how do you live with it? Gareth May interviewed Jon, who wasn’t diagnosed until age 28, and discusses the mental health impact of late diagnosis....



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What Is Testicular Torsion?


Adam England describes his experience with testicular torsion as a teenager, and the impact the condition had on his mental health....



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Sex And Mental Health Management


Can sex help you manage a mental health condition? Cherith Fuller explains how it works for her....



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Why Healthcare Professionals Should Recommend Sex Toys To Patient...


Samantha Evans, founder of retailer Jo Divine, discusses the...



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Desire In The Time Of Coronavirus


Self-isolation should mean more time for sex and orgasms right? Vibrator sales have rocketed, and there are jokes about the birth rate increasing. But, asks Kate Orson, are people really exp...



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Dysorgasmia – What Causes Painful Orgasms?...


Sex blogger Petra Pan talks about her experiences with dysorgasmia – painful orgasms – and offers he...



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Sex Communication 101


How do you feel about sex communication in your relationship? From open and encouraging, to teasing or shutting down, sex communication can take many forms. Here are our top tips on how to u...



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All the Different Ways I Tried To Come on SSRIs...


In her first guest post for us, comedian Andrea Hubert described losing her orgasm when she went on ...



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Penis Sensitivity 101


Too sensitive? Not sensitive enough? There’s a lot of misinformation out there that sets impossible standards for penis owners. Here are some down-to-earth suggestions by author M. Christian...



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Sometimes Submitting In Bed Helps My Depression...


Submitting in bed – There are many ways to manage depression. Here our newest guest blogger, James M...



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Orgasm Health Benefits: Nine Unexpected Reasons To Get Your ‘Vita...


We all know orgasms are fun. But did you know they’re scient...



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Vaginismus: Interview With An Expert


Vaginismus is a condition that causes involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles (or ‘kegels’), and it can make any kind of vaginal penetration difficult and painful....



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What is a Cervical Orgasm?


The cervix is a lesser known pleasure point, often forgotten in the debate about whether the G-spot exists or not. Kate Orson tells you why it’s worth investigating the cervical orgasm....



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How To Reduce Stress – While Enjoying Yourself...


It’s Stress Awareness Month, and one of the most enjoyable, natural ways to reduce stress is with se...



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Mental Health Benefits Of Masturbation...


When it comes to mental health, some wellbeing practices are more enjoyable than others. Let’s take ...



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Have You Considered These Prostate Cancer Sex Aids?...


When we talk about sex after prostate cancer, a lot of the discussion is focused on the physical thi...



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2021 Sex Positive Manifest-heaux


Calling all self-proclaimed sluts and sex positivists! Let’s make 2021 our heaux-iest year yet. Author Shakira Scott pens an inspiring Manifest-heaux for those of us who aspire to slut it up...



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Masturbation Techniques: Breaking The ‘Death Grip’...


Ever heard of the ‘death grip’, especially in relation to masturbation? It’s a term coined by sex ad...



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Surprising Facts About The Penis


It’s time we give the finger to the limiting – and outdated – beliefs about the penis. Here are the must-know facts for every penis owner who wants to level up their confidence and sex life....



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Sex With Vaginismus (When You Don’t Even Know You Have It)...


Sex blogger Petra Pan on undiagnosed vaginismus and the impa...



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Being Single: How To Kick Ass At Being Single...


Being single: while we’re not going to pretend like it’s easy – especially during lockdown – it is p...



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Sex For Anxiety And Depression


While your doctor might not exactly prescribe sex as a treatment for anxiety and depression... we think it’s great! Plenty of studies demonstrate the mental and emotional benefits of sexual ...



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If Using A Sex Toy Counted As Cheating…...


Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex to...



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What Is Delayed Ejaculation?


You’ve probably heard of premature ejaculation – whether it’s creams and condoms designed to numb the penis to hold back orgasm, or simply stories of occasions when sex has ended all-too-qui...



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Chronic Pain And Sex – Solutions For A Blissful Love Life...


Chronic pain and sex? No need to despair! While living with chronic pain is no cakewalk, it doesn’t ...



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Best Sex Life: How To Have Messy, Cathartic, Soul-Cleansing Sex O...


Are you having the best sex of your life? Spoiler: the answe...



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Sex On TV and Hands Free Masturbation


If you’ve been using your PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL for hands-free masturbation at the computer, taking advantage of the fact that you can use both of your hands to browse your chosen… ahem… mate...



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Sex Blog Memes That Will Bring You Joy...


We can say with 100% confidence that if you enjoy reading our sex toy blog, you’ll love reading some...



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When Sex Is An Extreme Sport


Here’s another great erotic and thoughtful guest post from James Mycroft – this time about a sporting injury that’s got nothing to do with running or rock climbing…...



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Who’s The World’s Fastest Wanker?


Today we’re welcoming the amazing vlogger DaveyWavey to the HotOctopuss blog. We gave him some PULSE SOLO ESSENTIALs and to really put them through their paces, he’s staged the PULSE Olympic...



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Why London Is The Sexiest City In The World...


Sydney is quite seductive, and Tokyo can be tantalising, but we think London is the sexiest city in ...



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Tackling modern masturbation myths


It’s easy for us to laugh at historical mistakes: the old myth that excessive masturbation would damage your vision, for instance, is one that very few people would give credence to today....



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How To Find The Most Unique Sex Toys


It’s natural that humans want to chase variety, in sex as well as elsewhere in life. Same-old-same-old masturbation is pleasurable, of course: even a bad wank is still nice....



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Which Sex World Record Could You Beat?...


Last weekend the Hot Octopuss team chatted about sex world records. Are there any categories in whic...



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5 Things From Netflix’s Sex Education We Wish They’d Taught Us At...


Netflix’s funny-but-touching teen comedy show Sex Education ...



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Worst DIY Sex Toy Fails


Let’s face it, the words ‘DIY’ and ‘sex toy’ go together about as well as ‘vodka’ and ‘snowboarding.’ The two should never mix, and you can guarantee that if they do someone’s going to get s...



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Best Adult Halloween Celebration Ideas 2021 ...


Want to know why you need to celebrate Halloween this year and need tips on how to enjoy this Hallow...



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How to Celebrate Black Friday 2021 – The Ultimate Play Party Chec...


Here are our reasons why a play party can fantastically cele...