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In Search Of Guilt Free Kink


What happens when your sexual desires don’t match those you were raised to believe were the ‘right’ ones? Sex blogger May More discusses guilt and kink – and how to get over it.



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What Kind Of Guy Is Into Pegging?


Axel runs The School Of Squirt along with his partner Laura, where the pair teach how to achieve female ejaculation as part of a healthy, fulfilling and exciting sex life. Axel’s interests extend beyond just amazing sex, into health, psychology and yoga. Here, exclusively for Hot Octopuss, he discusses just how great pegging can be for men in heterosexual partnerships.



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Foot Worship


Author M. Christian breaks down one of the most popular fetishes: foot worship. From boots to heels to bare feet, and from pedicures to BDSM scenes, this article covers it all. Want tips on how to tell your partner? You’ll find those in here too.



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BDSM Toys For Beginners And WTF To Do With Them


What should every kink curious couple have in their bedroom? Bondage cuffs, blindfolds, and a paddle. WTF should they do with them? Read on to find out about BDSM toys for beginners:



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Kink Scenes – Top 3 Beginner Friendly Scenes


True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...



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Ask Zentai: Prostate Stimulation & KURVE


KURVE sounds like it could be an interesting prostate massager/p-spot stimulator for guys in the same way the tip “smooshes” out flat. I’m wondering if it had the reach/length so-to-speak to be able to do that where the average guy’s prostate is a few inches inside their bum…



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Getting Started With BDSM: Older Person’s Guide


Author M. Christian delves into how BDSM can become an enjoyable part of anyone’s sexual activities, no matter their age or experience.



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BDSM Communication: Older Person’s Guide to BDSM, Part 2


Older person’s guide to BDSM, Part 2 – Author M. Christian advises on communication and bondage for seniors exploring BDSM.



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Zentai Q & A


Your questions about the weird and wonderful - answered



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Getting Started With BDSM: Older Person’s Guide


Author M. Christian delves into how BDSM can become an enjoyable part of anyone’s sexual activities, no matter their age or experience.



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Christmas Gifts For the BDSM Fan in Your Life


Next up in our ‘Christmas gift guide’ series we’re dealing with gifts for BDSM fans. The first in the series tackled Christmas gifts for the porn lover in your life – whether it’s a gift subscription for him to use on his favourite site or a pair of wireless headphones as a gift for her so she can watch her favourite films without disturbing the neighbours.



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BDSM Power Exchange


True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...



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Zentai Bio


Zentai is an agender, submissive switch who specializes in extreme play. This is their biography. Say hello and ask a question.



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Kinky Roleplay Anarchy


“If you’d like to give roleplay a try but you want something that lets you decide on the level of power exchange you want, and lets you play with gender however you like, today is your lucky day.” Sophia Reading breaks down kinky roleplay anarchy for folks who want a different take on this BDSM favorite.



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Coffee & Kink – Sex Blogging Saved My Soul


Being a member of a gender or sexual minority can be a lonely place. Most of us are raised with the belief, implicit or explicit, that matters of sexuality are things we do not talk about.



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Ask Zentai: How do I come out as a chastity bottom?


How do I make known my status as a submissive omega chastity bottom? I love being the last on the list with a tiny nubbed dicklet. But how do I accept myself enough to reveal my truth in public?



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How To Get Started With Kink


Whether you’ve had kinky fantasies as far back as you can remember or you just want to try something new, everyone’s got to start somewhere when it comes to exploring their darker desires. But where? We asked some committed kinksters how they made their BDSM debuts. Also see our recommended resources at the end.



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Halloween BDSM: A How-To Guide


Halloween BDSM: let’s show this pandemic who’s boss!



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BDSM Troubleshooting – How To Be A Good Dom


Let’s be real: if you’re experimenting with BDSM, you’re going to run into problems. This is a sign that you’re learning and growing! The good news is that you’re not alone. In all likelihood, what you’re going through has been experienced by others (who’ve lived to tell the tale!) Below are common issues that kinksters have historically run into... and the ways in which they kicked those issues’ asses.



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World BDSM Day – History And Short-Notice Ways To Celebrate


We just found out it’s World BDSM Day. Aside from self-flagellating because we didn’t know it existed until now, we’ve also been investigating where the day came from and thinking about ways to celebrate at short notice. So here are our findings:



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BDSM Advice: What kind of kink can I do by myself?


Dear Zentai - I’m single. What kind of kink can I do by myself?



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BDSM Problems – When Things Don’t Go As Planned


Chances are if you’ve tried something new, whether in the dungeon or the bedroom, you’re no stranger to the above statements. In all reality, new scenes rarely go as planned. Here are some tips for navigating BDSM problems.



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Impact Play And Power Exchange: Older Person’s Guide To BDSM Part 3


Impact Play and Power Exchange: In part three of his Senior BDSM series, author M. Christian advises on the risks and pleasures of impact play, role-play, and power exchange.



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How To Fetlife


FetLife is the greatest free resource on BDSM. Equal parts social network, learning platform, and dating service, Fet has created a culture of openness and celebration around the Lifestyle.



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How To BDSM – Beginner’s Guide


Shakira Scott aka Scotty Unfamous shares her tips for exploring your wild side so you can live your best kinky heaux life



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Ask Zentai: To Squirt Or Not To Squirt?


I’d really like to help my wife squirt. How can we make this happen? Once it happens will it happen all or most of the time?



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BDSM Community – How To Get Involved


If you want to get involved with the BDSM community, welcome! And here’s how to get started.



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Secretary Movie Review


Long before 50 Shades of Grey there was Secretary, the 2002 film based on a short story written by Mary Gaitskill in 1988. And yes, the main character’s name is Mr. Grey. Nineteen years and a lifetime of sexcapades after my first viewing, I rewatched the film. My objective: to analyze it from a grown-ass kinky adult perspective. Did the second viewing of this movie make my inner sadist facepalm with disappointment or inspire me to dig out the toy box with glee? Here are my thoughts on the infamous BDSM film, Secretary.



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How To Be Sexually Confident With Scotty Unfamous And Madam Storm


Meet MSSS, the sexual happiness experts, learn some tips on sexual confidence, and find out about their exclusive online workshop.



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Male Sex Toys: The BDSM Possibilities


When we say ‘BDSM sex toys’, most people’s first thoughts are of whips and chains. Bondage restraints, floggers, canes: anything that’s used to cause sexy pain or hold your submissive in position.



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