There are plenty of magazine columnists ready to offer you sex tips – from the sublime to the utterly ridiculous (like Cosmo’s infamous ‘put a doughnut on his penis then eat it off’ advice). But there aren’t as many willing to offer unusual masturbation tips – especially if you’ve got a dick. Often the assumption is that everyone with a dick masturbates in roughly the same way: up, down, up, down, repeat until you’re done.
But there are plenty of things you can add to your solo sex life if you want to experiment with something different. Here are a few of our favourite unusual masturbation tips.
Two handed masturbation
Most people masturbate with just one hand (or none – read on for a totally hands-free masturbation tip!), but you can increase the pleasure and sensation with two, as long as you don’t need a spare hand for browsing porn. Grab your favourite lube, and spread it liberally over yourself. Next clasp both of your hands around your penis, fingers interlocked. The aim here is to get as much coverage as possible – so rather than a ‘standard’ wank where you’re using one hand on the most sensitive parts, this is designed to slow you down and give you a more intense sensation right from the head to the tip.
While you’ve got both hands lubed up, you might also like to try palming the head. With one hand stroking the shaft, use the other hand to rub gently around the head. Essentially you’re making a small, almost-flat cup with your palm and then moving it in delicate circles so it stimulates as much of the head as possible. For some people, the head of their penis will be much too sensitive to do this, so don’t worry if this one doesn’t do it for you!
Kneeling masturbation (and other positions)
While researching this article (seriously, we have the most fun job!) we found a number of men who say that kneeling during masturbation can give a more intense orgasm. For some it’s about the angle, for others it’s because tensing your thigh muscles (and kegel muscles) helps to focus, and for others it’s because when you’re kneeling you can use your heels to spread your arse cheeks. Whatever the reason, switching up positions can give you a different sensation and perspective. If you’re mostly used to sitting at your desk, or lying in bed, then standing up in the shower or kneeling on the floor presents a new masturbation challenge. Voila: unique masturbation tips that don’t mean you have to learn some complex new hand technique.
Nipple play during masturbation
While nipple play is often a big part of partnered sex and foreplay, it’s rarely ever discussed as part of masturbation. Which is odd, when you think about it: so many people enjoy playing with their own nipples, leaving them out of an article on masturbation tips is like forgetting to include ‘lube’ in an article about sex toys. Pinching and squeezing them with your spare hand while you’re masturbating can seriously intensify the experience. And if what you’re after is a little more pain than pleasure, nipple clamps work just as well when you’re alone as they do with a partner…
New kinds of porn
While porn is amazing, watching the same porn over and over again can sometimes make your solo sex life feel a little bit routine. Do you fire up the same websites each time, and head to your favourite category? There’s a whole world of porn out there, and exploring new genres – or new performers whose work you like – is a great way to mix things up.
If you’re feeling more imaginative, how about switching off one of your senses? Try swapping from visual porn to more audio porn – you can find plenty of it out there online, whether it’s audio erotica (where writers read their dirty stories to you) or classic audio porn where you’re listening to the sounds of people masturbating or having sex. A blindfold, some decent headphones, and a dark room are all you need – let your imagination do the rest.
There are plenty of ways to engage in a bit of hands-free masturbation – your favourite will depend on how active you want to be, as well as how sensitive your penis is. Although some people can orgasm without any touch whatsoever (yes, really! Although often it does involve small movements which involve twitching their penis so the head rubs gently against their stomach or thigh) by far the easiest way to do this is with a sex toy like PULSE.
PULSE uses patented oscillating technology to stimulate the frenulum – the most sensitive part of your penis, on the underside of the head. It has varying speeds and intensities, so you can use the buttons on the side to select the right intensity for you. Then all you need to do is put your hands behind your head and relax – the deep vibrations thrumming through your penis feel very different to a traditional wank, but with explosively orgasmic results.