We still use the term G-Spot although to be accurate it is not a spot per se, but a larger region located on the front wall of the vagina (the side of the vagina facing the belly rather than the back of the body). Stimulation of the front wall of the vagina — when stimulated with pressure simultaneously stimulates the internal clitoris and also stimulates the female prostate gland known as the urethral sponge– (which by the way is the source of the fluids that can be released during female ejaculation or “squirting”).
When you include the external and internal parts of the clitoris it is about the same size as a penis!
Make sure to empty your bladder before this exercise for comfort. Find a comfortable place where you’re not going to be disturbed. Wear comfortable clothes that allow an all-access pass to your private parts. Put on some nice music and perhaps light a candle. Remember this is time to simply experience your sensations — the intention is not to orgasm.
Exercise Part 1: Finger exploration of your G-Spot
Step one: prepare your mind/body
Take some time to relax and drop into your breath. Take a very long smooth exhalation through your nostrils, followed by a longer smooth exhalation, again through your nostrils if possible.
When you lengthen your out-breath, your nervous system begins to shift into the restorative, calming mode necessary for the maximum experience of pleasure. The more relaxed you are before you attempt to insert anything into your vagina, the more comfortable and pleasurable the experience will be.
Step two: Explore your vulva
Explore the different parts of your genitals on the outside of your body — your labia (both the outer and inner lips), clitoris, and vaginal opening. It is easiest to experience this while lying on your back with your knees comfortably spread.
Take a moment to explore the nooks and crannies of your female parts. Before attempting to insert anything into your vagina, you might choose to stimulate your external clitoris first, and then if you want, massage your internal clitoris (the bulbs) by pressing down with your fingers on either side of your inner lips and massaging them until you feel sensations of warmth, tingling, and perhaps a bit of engorgement or arousal.
Remember: We are not attempting to have an orgasm in this experience. We’re just paying enough attention to your genitals to be able to prepare them for the insertion of your fingers and then the KURVE device if you so choose.
Step three: Start exploring the vagina with your fingers
Lubricate your index finger and middle fingers (be sure to use water-based lube if you plan on going onto part two using the KURVE). Slowly insert your fingers so that they are reaching backward and upwards towards your belly.
Press up and move your fingers to stroke the roof of your vagina (the anterior wall when you are lying down will be the roof of the vagina) — experimenting with “come-hither” movements as you gently press and stroke the vaginal wall. Some people experience a sensation that feels a little bit like pressure on the bladder. That’s normal.
Focus on the sensations as you press against and stroke the roof of the vagina. And as you do this, start to contract your pelvic floor muscles around your fingers as if you’re trying to alternate between pulling the fingers deeper into the vagina and then pushing your fingers out.
You can practice pulsing the muscles of the floor of your pelvis so that it feels like a contraction or pulling up on the area between your genitals and your anus, also known as the perineum.
Alternate between gently pulsing these muscles around your fingers and then pressing up against the interior wall of the vagina in a way that feels pleasurable. You don’t need to go for the orgasm or even higher levels of arousal.
What we want to do here is to consciously bring your attention both to the pelvic floor muscles and to the experience of sensations arising from the pressure to the interior wall or roof of the vagina.
Exercise Part 2: Using the KURVE device to explore your G-Spot
Liberally lubricate the KURVE device with a water-based lubricant. Gently insert it without turning it on and repeat the steps that you did with your fingers, using the device to apply firm but comfortable pressure on the anterior wall or roof of the vagina.
Move the device inward and upward so that you feel it pressing against the interior wall of the vagina. Now contract your pelvic floor muscles, tightening the vagina around the device to pull the device in. Try and push it out and then pulse those muscles so that you are alternating between contraction and relaxation.
Now you can experiment with turning on the device and adjusting the Treble and Bass settings in any way that feels good.
While you are doing the stimulation and using your hand to press the device deeper into the vagina, upwards back towards your belly, try to move the device a bit out, but not all the way out of the vagina.
This might result in a delicious sensation of suction. Now alternate this with using the pelvic floor muscles to tighten your vagina around the device and then play with using these muscles to pull the device further inward and up and against the roof of the vagina, and then let your muscles push the device a bit outward, but not out of the vagina.
Let your vagina dance with the device-moving with the beat of the Treble and Bass to create your own sensation symphony. Don’t attempt to orgasm, just feel the sensations.