Question:
How do you overcome mismatched libidos? Is it common?
A: Great question! And one of the most common concerns that couples worry about.
Firstly, it's normal for partners to have different desires or levels of interest in sex, especially as the relationship evolves and also as life evolves. Things like stress, health changes, hormones, kids, and mental well-being can all play a part in someone's desire for sex to reduce or become less frequent.
The first thing to do is discuss it and understand when you both noticed this shift. It's easy to take mismatched desires personally, but desire is shaped by so many forces beyond our control.
Secondly, explore other ways to build intimacy without the pressure to have sex. This could look like non-sexual touch, sensual moments, quality time or a weekend away.
Building emotional and physical intimacy outside the bedroom can often help you work towards developing more intimacy in the bedroom as you start to understand and feel closer together.
April Maria (Sex Educator & Intimacy Coach)
