I can orgasm on my own, but not with a partner—why?
Orgasm isn’t just about technique — it’s about context.
Advice column
I can orgasm on my own, but not with a partner—why?
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I’m a 45-year-old male with a spinal cord injury. How can I ejaculate?
Question: I’m a 45-year-old male with a spinal cord injury. Because of my injury, I have a difficult time ejaculating. It’s frustrating, and I’m looking for advice that might help....
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Can using toys too much desensitise my vulva and nipples?
Question: Is it possible for the nerves around my vulva and nipples to become desensitised or start to die off from toys? A: This is such a common fear, but...
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My partner doesn't want me to pleasure him with ED but it doesn't bother me.
Question: My partner has ED. He doesn't want me to pleasure him. I told him I don't care about his ED, I still want to pleasure him, and he says...
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What your best suggestion for a 70 year old male using a masturbator?
Question: What your best suggestion for a 70 year old male using a masturbator? The key thing to remember, despite what society tells us, is that there’s no “age limit”...
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How do I restore frequent intimacy and sexual relationships with my husband of 26 years?
Question: How do I restore frequent intimacy and sexual relationships with my husband of 26 years? Restoring intimacy or keeping the spark alive after 26 years together isn’t about going...
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How do you overcome mismatched libidos?
Question: How do you overcome mismatched libidos? Is it common? A: Great question! And one of the most common concerns that couples worry about. Firstly, it's normal for partners to...
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Post stroke and supporting penile stimulation
Question: My husband is post brainstem stroke quad/hemiparesis. He has some sensation, and some spontaneous semi-stiffies, (oh and a suprapubic catheter, so that is not in the way) but trying...
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My husband has ED & low libido from cancer. What can we do?
Question: My husband has stage 4 prostate cancer and had a prostatectomy 10 years ago that resulted in an inability to have erections, and his anti-testosterone treatment has also severely...
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Is my age affecting my erections and libido?
Question: Why do some men not get erections and lose sexual urges as they grow older with their partner? Have they lost sexual attraction to their partner or is it...
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How do I get my libido back?
Question: I’ve lost my libido and have minimal sexual response left; is there any way to turn that around? My husband was always the lower-interest partner, and now we’ve almost...
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I'm such a "people pleaser" even in my sex life!
Question: I'm such a "people pleaser" that even my sex life has evolved into me catering to my partner's desires and deliver fantastic results (which turns me on tbh). I've...
