There’s a long-standing assumption that lube is only needed when something isn’t working. That we should all be wet instantly when it comes to sex. If not, we aren't turned on, or our partner is doing something wrong. False!
In reality, lube isn’t about fixing a problem or a replacement to bad sex; it’s about upgrading the entire experience. Our bodies often need a helping hand, regardless of gender, and it's time to normalise this in any relationship.
The amount of lubrication our bodies produce is not always correlated to how turned on we are; in fact, stress, medication, hormones, and other lifestyle factors can impact the amount of lubrication our bodies produce.
And when it comes to using toys, lube REALLY is your best friend.
Whether you’re using toys solo or with a partner, adding lube can completely change how things feel, how long you may last and how your skin feels post-use. It’s not an extra; it’s a tool that, when used well, can make everything smoother, easier, and a lot more enjoyable.
Here are four reasons why lube deserves a permanent place in your routine, especially when toys are involved.
1. It enhances sensation.
Friction isn’t always your friend, especially when toys are being used.
While some level of friction can feel good, too much of it can dull sensation over time or lead to discomfort or skin irritation, especially during longer sessions.
Lube creates a smoother glide, which means:
- Less drag on the skin
- More consistent stimulation
- A more natural, responsive feel
With toys like oscillating or vibrating devices, this becomes even more important. Instead of the sensation feeling harsh or overly intense, lube helps distribute the stimulation more evenly across nerve endings.
2. It helps you stay focused on feeling
One of the most underrated benefits of lube is how much it reduces distraction. Without it, you might find yourself:
- Repositioning constantly
- Adjusting pressure
- Losing rhythm
- Getting pulled out of the moment
When everything moves more smoothly, your body doesn’t go into “problem-solving mode.” You’re not thinking about what needs shifting or adjusting; you’re actually feeling what’s happening.
3. It supports sensitive skin (before, during, and after use)
Lube acts as a protective layer between the toy and your skin, which can be supportive for those with sensitivities. It reduces that repetitive drag and helps prevent the kind of overstimulation that can cause skin irritation.
For those with more sensitive skin, or anyone who’s experienced post-play discomfort before, this can make a noticeable difference. It allows you to enjoy the intensity of a toy without the unwanted after-effects that can linger for days.
4. It makes anal play feel more comfortable & safe
Anal play is one area where lube isn’t optional; in fact, it’s essential.
Unlike other parts of the body, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so without lube, toys can feel uncomfortable, restrictive, or even painful.
When exploring anal play, toys or not, you mustn’t be pushing through discomfort. When paired with the right toys (think flared bases, ergonomic design, and body-safe materials), lube helps turn anal play into something that feels accessible, safe, and genuinely enjoyable.
Remember, lube isn’t just for when things aren’t working. It’s for when you want things to work better.
