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New Sexual Pleasures For The Penis-equipped


Greetings, my fellow possessors of a particular. anatomical appendage!  If you don’t mind, I’d like to ask you something:


The reason I’m asking is it’s a pretty safe bet a large number of you pictured this or that variety of penetrative play, usually involving an erection.

But what would you say if I told you there are all sorts of exciting ways you can have a rip-roaringly good time that doesn’t require your penis to be standing at rock-hard attention for a prolonged amount of time?

Beginning with expanding your definition of what sex is—and most of all, the things it can be.

The why and why not of erectile dysfunction (ED)

unhappy couple in bed penis problem

“When you have a hammer everything looks like a nail,” or so the old saying goes. Though an admittedly dubious metaphor, what I’m getting at is for us people-with penises, putting them into something or someone else often feels like the end-all, be-all for sexual enjoyment.

Without a doubt, it most assuredly can be, though the somewhat harsh reality about these body parts is they don’t always do what we want them to.

As in getting and staying erect, the whys of this misbehaving may run from poor diet, lack of exercise, reactions to medications, not getting enough sleep to performance anxiety, depression, along with a million other reasons.

No matter the cause, every single person with a penis has at one time or another become frustrated or scared at one time or other that a struggle to maintain an erection might be a sign of an imminent, long-term problem.

But as any two-minute internet search will tell you, there are as many ways to potentially deal with erectile dysfunction issues as there are people with penises.

However, few of them rarely mention a remarkably effective technique, one that can do wonders for erection concerns as well as open your eyes to wild and arousing sexual activities.

Looking beyond penetration

One of the most unfortunate things that can happen when penises don’t do what we want is for the owner or those they’re playing with to make a big deal out of it—an insult to injury, which might put a dampener on the entire experience.

At the risk of repeating myself: this happens! So you can either have it negatively impact your sex life or accept it and move on.

And an excellent place to begin your moving on is to understanding sex doesn’t have to involve penetration—or even an erection.

I can already hear a few of you raising the question of orgasms, as in “if I can’t get hard, how can I come?”

The answer is while it’ll take a bit of practice, you absolutely can: aided by lots of emotional care, letting go of expectations, and allowing yourself to find pleasure in the moment.

Bring in the playthings

Sex toys can be an invaluable aid, as well, by providing novel and highly stimulating sensations without needing your penis to be fully erect.

Plus series is a fine example, as its scintillating vibrations—not to mention its equally arousing oscillations—can be all kinds of exciting for the not-readily firm.

As are also the other (giggle) members of our other penis-focused product line, like Pulse series, Atom Plus and JETT. These sex toys are built around how moderately constricting a penis’s blood flow reduces overall sensitivity, allowing for delayed orgasms and the wearer to get and stay harder for more extended amounts of time (personally tried, tested and loved it).

Making them a frequent go-to plaything for anyone concerned about their erections, as are cock rings: the simpler version of the same penile-restriction effect, usually made of latex, rubber, Velcro, or, on occasion, even steel.

As a massive fan of cock rings and this variety of sex toys, I have to say they do lend assistance in the achieve and maintain erections department.

However, like a lot of pleasure devices, repeated use may result in diminishing returns: where users may end up having to make them tighter and tighter, or leaving them on for extended periods, to try and recapture those initial sensations.

Sex can be anything

Ideally, what’s needed is to happily embrace these and other penis-in-mind sex toys coupled with opening your mind to different sexual possibilities.

My favorite is to consider sex not a commodity to be given, taken, performed for bragging rights, or to prove something to someone but as whatever turns you on.

That and when playing with others, to make it anything you mutually agree on would be consensually exciting to experience with each other.

Couple in bed have sexHere’s an illustration of what I mean: when embarking on your sexual pleasuring—by yourself or with someone else—resist the urge to try to live up to what will likely be unrealistic expectations but instead take things as they (yet another giggle) come.

Doing so, keep your mind and imagination open to activities like helping your partner orgasm—followed by them doing the same with you, hauling out your playbag of sexual gadgets and gizmos to see what might be a hoot-and-a-half to fire up, engage in the delights of mutual masturbation, cuddle under some blankets, kiss up a storm or a myriad of similarly exciting pleasantries.

And should your particular appendage rear its helmeted head, coupled with feeling it would be arousing to so and receiving explicit and unadulterated consent to proceed, then, by all means, have as much penetrative play as you and your partner would like.

Just consider thinking of it as one of a universe of arousing activities. Because if you do, in no time, there’ll be a brightly shining lightbulb over your head to illustrate your understanding good sex doesn’t have to depend on erections—and should be about what you and whoever you fool around with like to do.

Whatever that happens to be.

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Article by Hot Octopuss Guest Writer M. Christian.

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