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Kinky Starter Kit – Must Haves


At some point within the first year of your BDSM (mis)adventures, you’ll want to build a kinky starter kit. Or two. Or three.


Chances are, you’ll have amassed a melange of materials and supplies. Floggers, forceps, safety shears, Jennings gags, arm binders, and origin-unknown rubber chickens are likely to be piling up in your bedroom at this point. It’s time to get organized and put your big dom pants on.

For public play, conventions, and dungeon parties you’ll need a kit with wheels. Hardware stores are the best places to find these. Take your time poking around the larger toolboxes there. Fasten and unfasten the latches. Do you like how they feel? Imagine yourself placing materials into the various compartments. Do they seem to be conveniently situated? Once you’ve selected your favourite toolbox, you can start filling it with your toys and supplies!

Items needed if you go to play parties or public dungeons:

•  Surface cleaner – Optim is the absolute best option for medical grade surface disinfectant. The second best is Cavicide, which unfortunately is heavily carcinogenic. Gloves must always be worn when using Cavicide. Mind the kill time on these disinfectants. They are bottled at varying concentrations; read the label and follow directions accordingly. In the most desperate of situations a Clorox wipe might suffice. Isopropyl alcohol is never an acceptable surface cleanser.

•  Table liner or chucks pads – table liners are good if your bottom will be excreting light amounts of fluids, i.e. genital secretions. Chucks pads are needed when a larger amount of fluid (i.e. urine) is anticipated. These are most useful when executing a scene on a massage table, medical table, or chair.

•  Contractor’s plastic or disposable tablecloths – for those times when you’re planning on getting really messy. This could include sploshing (food play) or hot wax. Contractor’s plastic and disposable tablecloths are best used on large, flat surfaces such as the floor.

•  Headlamp with a red light setting – this will become your best friend at dark dungeon parties. The red light setting enables you to dig through your kit and inspect the state of your bottom’s body without harshing anyone’s mellow.

Supplies that are fairly universal

These belong both in kits designed for at home use as well as those meant for dungeon parties and conventions.

Lube

If you have silicone lube, keep it in a Ziploc bag separate from other lubes. This will reduce the risk of you accidentally grabbing silicone lube in a dark setting and proceeding to ruin your toys.

If vaginal or front hole play is your go to, then you’ll want a big bottle lube, water based if you have silicone toys. CBD infused lubricants are of particular interest these days; check with your partner to see if they want to try one.

For anal play you’ll want a water-based lube of thick jelly consistency. For anal fisting try your hand at shortening consistency lubes such as Boy Butter. Another classic is J Lube, which is a powder that you add water to. J Lube’s not for the faint of heart or those with expensive sheets, for it is messy and goopy to no end.

Gloves

Nothing says “I know what I’m doing,” like a pair of examination gloves. Choose nitrile: some folks have latex allergies and vinyl is not stretchy. Gloves prevent you from scratching your partner’s insides during manual stimulation.

They can be used for anal play and then removed so that your session isn’t interrupted by a trip to the bathroom sink. When camping or during spontaneous hand sex at Burning Man, they allow you to dive into a world of fun without concerns of hand sanitizer or your lack of running water. Nitrile gloves are the absolute most versatile sex tool out there.

Blindfolds

Nothing makes it easier to shift into power exchange and sensory manipulation than leather blindfolds. Removing the sense of sight catapults the bottom into reliance upon – and hopefully trust in – their top. When we can’t see, the awareness of our breath heightens to dreamlike levels of lucidity. We tune into the sound of our top’s footsteps, and the smell of their skin.

Blindfolds don’t require any role playing to be effective. They are, by their nature, powerful enough to shift our consciousness into a scene.

There are many styles to choose from. Inexpensive options are available at drugstores. Domed blindfolds are nice options for those who have larger eyes. Scarves can be used for improvisation. And if you have the desire and budget for BDSM specific blindfolds, many high end leather and fetish designs are out there. While not entirely necessary, these are the most stylish options.

Knee Pads

If anyone’s going to be crawling during a scene, they need knee pads. Choose soft, low profile ones, such as those used by dancers. These guys come in different sizes. Make sure to get a pair that fit snugly while not cutting off circulation.

As you’ve likely guessed by now, kinky starter kits develop organically, out of necessity. You’re likely to have more than one. A medical play kit will contain vastly different materials than a rope bondage or boot black kit, no?

Both tops and bottoms can have their own kits. Bottoms often include snacks and aftercare items in theirs.

Take an inventory of your kit at least a few hours before your scene begins, to make sure you have everything that you need. Cover your Pandora’s box in self identifying stickers and pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

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