Question:
What your best suggestion for a 70 year old male using a masturbator?
The key thing to remember, despite what society tells us, is that there’s no “age limit” on pleasure, and masturbators can be a great option for a 70-year-old man. They are great for exploring comfort, ease, and confidence, and the Pulse range is particularly great for exploring pleasure without the need to stay erect.
While you have fun exploring, here are a few things to keep in mind.
1. Prioritise comfort
While you explore, try to focus on what feels good rather than on performing or having expectations. Allow pleasure to be about relaxation and enjoyment, not pressure or outcomes.
2. Start gently, not intensely
As sensitivity and circulation can change with age, softer stimulation and slower rhythms are often more enjoyable than strong suction or aggressive textures. Listen to what your body needs and follow what feels good.
3. Support any erectile changes, don’t fight them
Many men in their 60s and 70s experience changes in firmness or stamina, and that's perfectly normal. Masturbators that work with partial erections or don’t rely on a tight seal can reduce pressure and performance anxiety. Introduce things like lube for extra support and explore edging to build blood flow and arousal.
4. Take the pressure off the goal
The key is to remember pleasure doesn’t have to mean orgasm every time. Using a masturbator can be about relaxation, body awareness, stress relief, or enjoying sensation, not “achieving” anything. Just enjoy the ride!
April Maria (Sex Educator & Intimacy Coach)
