The holiday season is pretty much here, which means now more than ever we’ll be leaning into our other halves for support.
Your sex life can exacerbate the situation or become a shelter in place for the storm.
Give your sex life a tune-up before holiday madness hits with full force. Sex toys can be great, thoughtful gifts that will benefit your partner (and potentially you) mentally and physically.
Before pulling the trigger, consider these:
Talk about it
Pretty much 100% necessary when considering a gift of this nature. Unless you know that they’ll like anything (unlikely), you’ll want to have an a-ok from them before you buy. If you’ve never used toys together, bring it up in a suggestive, non-confrontational way. Sharing pleasure can bring you closer together and ignite some new sparks in your sex life, so be mindful of that when you start the conversation! If you’ve shared experiences with toys in the past, get them talking about what they liked and didn’t like.
Ask the right questions

AMO is loved far and wide for being rumbly rather than buzzy like other vibrators.
What style is right for your partner? For a vulva-owner, it could be a dildo, bullet vibe, or a g-spot stimulator. For a penis-owner, it could be a cock ring, a prostate toy, or a vibrating sleeve. If they don’t like buzzy, surface vibrators and prefer a more deep, rumbly sensation, the AMO or DiGiT might suit their fancy.
Would lube make this a better experience? (Hint: the answer is YES.) Lube makes any sex toy significantly more fun to play with, so don’t opt-out of this bedside necessity. Is bigger always better? (Hint: the answer is NO.) Start small and you can always work your way up.
Do some online shopping together
Unfortunately, right now, the days of sex store date nights are on hold. While you’re sitting inside scrolling next to your partner, peruse some online stores and compare what you both find interesting.
Make a game out of it! Both partners can pull up an online store and each find a product that piques their interest. Agree to swap phones with the other person and share what you like about the toy. Remember, no judgements here!
Watch sex toy reviews together
Almost every major sex toy brand on the market has bloggers reviewing their most popular products. If you want some honest, real opinions about the toy you’re going to invest in, you can probably find reviews somewhere on the web. Online reviews can offer more in-depth insight into the user experience, that usually aren’t covered on basic product pages. Share product review videos with your partner like you share those memes – shamelessly! Here’s a fun, informative couple’s review of the Pulse Duo Lux to get you started.