Bringing A Male Vibrator Into Your Bedroom

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Introducing your girlfriend or wife to your favourite sex toy can be a little tricky. Some women may feel threatened by the presence of a male vibrator in your bedroom. Others might not know how to use one, or worry that they’re not able to compete with the toy when it comes to giving you the most amazing orgasms. Well, we’re here to help.

We’ve collected a number of tips from all across the web, explaining how and why you should bring a male vibrator into the bedroom.

And if they sound odd… bear with us, and make sure you read to the end.

Shopping for one brings you closer together!

“Part of the fun and excitement of something new is the anticipation and feeling of closeness as you look for it together. Look for something that is versatile and can bring you both pleasure. Buying the male vibrator together also makes it ‘our toy’ instead of just ‘his toy’, it becomes something that can connect you two and build stronger intimacy in your relationship.”

Advice from Intimina

A male vibrator helps him embrace his exhibitionist side!

“Women – let him know that you find it hot that he uses a vibrator. Some men are uncomfortable masturbating and the fact that he pleasures himself opens a lot of opportunities for both of you in terms of exploring his body and what he likes.”

Advice from Men’s Health

The male vibrator won’t take your place!

“Some couples have concerns about adding a vibrator to their sex lives. She may be afraid he will start to ‘like it more than me’ and he may be concerned it will be impersonal and cold. These fears are normal, but unfounded. Talk about any such worries, and keep open communication about them as you explore. Realise that for men sex is relational – no device is ever going to please him the way a loving wife will. If a man chooses a vibe over his wife the problem is almost certainly not sexual; it shows a relationship problem.”

Advice from The Marriage Bed

A male vibrator helps both of you understand his body!

“Many girls have the mentality ‘I’m so good he doesn’t need a vibrator’, but it’s not a matter of being ‘good’, it’s a matter of his body. Once a woman can understand that, she’s one step closer to making him orgasm.”

Advice from Honestly Naked

Your male vibrator belongs in the bedroom!

Did any of the above advice sound… well… a little bit weird? It should do, because we’ve played a sneaky trick.

None of the above advice was written about male vibrators – each tip above was originally presented as advice on why women should bring vibrators into the bedroom. We just gender-flipped it.

Why? Well, there’s still a lot of stigma around male sex toys. When vibrators for women surged in popularity there were numerous articles that explained the value of bringing your rabbit or bullet vibe into the bedroom, as well as plenty of reassurance for men who might have felt a bit nervous about a sex toy that they’d perceive to be there to take their place. Yet with male vibrators, the discussion still often revolves around solo use, and sex toys for men are often seen as embarrassing in a way female sex toys aren’t. Although more men are buying sex toys each year, and there are plenty of awesome couples’ sex toys (like PULSE II DUO) on the market, there’s still a barrier to break down regarding male sex toys and their acceptability in society.

By gender-flipping the sex advice we’ve heard time and time again, it raises some interesting questions around how and why male vibrators are viewed differently to female ones.

  • Do women really feel ‘replaced’ by male sex toys?
  • Are men really ‘nervous’ about masturbating in front of their partners?
  • And are we, in offering different sex toy advice depending on gender, actually reinforcing the stereotypes about men and women that we should be trying to escape?

We’ve got no answers for you – only questions for you to consider. And a final piece of advice: if you’re in a relationship with a guy, don’t be nervous about introducing his solo sex toys into your coupled routine. Like the explosion of ‘rampant rabbit’ vibrators in the late 90s, the results of bringing more pleasure products into your bedroom can only be good ones.

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Posted on Mar 23rd, 2016 Uncategorized

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