4. Don’t yuck someone else’s yum.
This may take a bit of practice because some things can get kneejerk reactions, but it’s good for you and those who share that part of their life with you. You stop being a judgey little shit, for one (no one likes a judgey little shit). When you judge other people less, you naturally extend the same grace to yourself, which is a mood and can help you explore more of your desires . . . plus, you don’t end up making someone else feel rubbish. Whether it’s casual sex, kinks or sexuality (ESPECIALLY if it’s sexuality), keep it cute, bitch and remember to mind the business that pays you.
5. Closed mouths don’t get fed – speak up!
Whether it’s demanding what you want in the bedroom or from a relationship in general, you deserve the life you desire from both your luvah(s) and yourself. If you don’t like something, say it. Absolutely adore something and you want more of it? Say it. Something makes you uncomfortable, giddy, frustrated? Or makes you climax? SAY IT!
6. Bonus point – SEX TOYS!
It’s me, the Sexfluencer. You knew it was coming. If you really wanna know what kind of orgasms you body is capable of, get into sex toys. Experiment with different types, even the ones that scare you (in your own time of course), by yourself or with a partner (I have a video telling you everything you need to know about sex toys if you’re interested). Life is a luxury charcuterie board of sensual delights just laid out eagerly waiting for you to taste (I just made that really sexual and I’m into it) and henny, it is delicious!
So, here’s to a new year full of new experiences, new blessings, new lessons and new self-discoveries . . . even if most of it is within the four walls of our homes for now. Let’s make 2021 the year 2020 wishes she was.
*Raises bottomless brunch prosecco flute* To more orgasms, sex toys, self-discovery and naked banana bread baking.

Shakira ‘Scotty Unfamous’ Scott is an inappropriately fancy, London-based sexual wellness content creator, multi award-winning erotic romance author, co-founder of the sexual happiness experts MSSS and #DumpHim queen!
She started her blog to help women of colour explore and remove the stigma around their sexuality, educate them in the art of sensuality and promote and inspire self-love and body confidence. You can also find her on Twitter and Instagram.